It’s about your mindset.
By talking to your ex in a way that suggests you haven’t gotten over him, you are playing with fire.
This is how you plant the seed in your mind and his that getting back together in the foreseeable future is feasible.
This is obviously bad when you are already in a relationship.
It puts your relationship in a vulnerable position.
It’s an indication you aren’t taking your relationship seriously.
In essence, you would be using your relationship as a backup to what you really want.
What you really want is your ex.
However, you choose to stay in your relationship because you don’t want to be without someone.
Once the opportunity presents itself with your ex, it won’t take much for you to give in to cheating.
This is not a healthy position to be in.
If you still feel like you are connected to your ex emotionally and you never got over him, you shouldn’t stay in the relationship that you are currently in.
This isn’t fair to the person that you are in a relationship with.
This person cares a whole lot for you and has a lot of aspirations as to where the relationship is leading.
You have to come to terms with your feelings about your ex right now.
When you catch yourself flirting with your ex whenever you speak to him, you are demonstrating that an emotional connection with him persists.
Consistent flirting is dangerous, as it has a tendency to lead to action.
All it takes is an invite from your ex to hang out or talk one fateful day.
You tell yourself that it is harmless.
After all, you are in a relationship with someone else.
So, you go.
Nonetheless, while you are there, you realize just how much you miss your ex.
Observing his mannerisms and body language takes you back to familiar territory from your past relationship.
You remember how much you used to love his smile or the slight cockiness of his demeanor, and how he would lean into you from time to time and give you that look.
All of it comes back.
This meeting that you thought would be harmless has suddenly become a lot more.
Soon, your emotions are getting the best of you and you give in.
You cheat with this ex.
After it is done, you make yourself feel better by telling yourself that you got carried away and it will never happen again.
However, you are now thinking about your ex a lot more often, even when your current partner is around.
This is the danger you put yourself in when you keep talking to an ex that you continue to have romantic feelings for.
Decide where you stand emotionally with this ex.
If you can’t let him go, you should end your current relationship before it gets too far in, and work on resolving your emotions.
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