As a 30 year old who has never had a long-term relationship, you may think yourself strange or odd.
After all, this isn’t what you have observed of other people in your age range.
They are mostly married or at least in long-term relationships.
Other “normal” 30 year olds seem to be settled in their relationships and know what direction they want does relationships to go on moving forward.
On the other hand, there is you.
You have never had a long-term relationship.
You have never known what it is like to have someone there consistently as a partner and a companion.
You feel strange and left out.
You feel odd.
Your friends and family keep telling you that you should settle down as though it were that easy.
You feel like you are the black sheep of your generation.
Well, there is often a reason why you have never had a long-term relationship.
If you have not been social most of your life, it would be more difficult for you to find a mate.
You will have to examine your life and what you have been doing up until this point.
If you haven’t tried to put yourself in social situations, you have been drastically reducing your chances of finding someone for a long-term relationship.
That person is not necessarily going to come to you at work or when you are in line at your local deli or when you are out and about running errands.
You may need to examine just how proactive you have been in your adult years in trying to be social and meeting new people.
If you haven’t been working on getting out there and putting yourself in social environments, this will have to change if you want to have the best chance at meeting someone for a long-term relationship.
You will need to go to those social events and mingle.
You will need to stop turning down offers from friends when they invite you to a night out or a party.
In essence, you will have to start getting out of your comfort zone.
I know, you have spent a good chunk of your adult life not being so sociable.
It can be hard to change that now that you are so comfortable in it.
However, no one said that this was going to be easy.
How badly do you want to make a change?
If you want it bad enough, you will do what needs to be done.
Also, you should take note of your environment.
If you live in a small town that has very few dating prospects, you may need to leave.
You can’t continue staying in a situation that has no real opportunity when it comes to dating prospects.
On the flip side, if you live in a bigger city and have found it difficult to date someone on a long-term basis, it may be because you are hanging around the wrong crowd.
The city life is fast and many people who live there may look at relationships in the same way.
Your city crowd may be all about the gloss and not about the substance.
You may need to stop being around these kind of people and start focusing on finding a different group that may have more substance.
This is where you may be able to find quality people who would date you on a long-term basis.
If you try and yet find it impossible to find people of substance in your city, you may have to move to another one.
Be proactive and make some aggressive moves in your life.
This is how you change your circumstances.
The power is in your hands.
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