As a 30 year old who has never had a long-term relationship, you think yourself strange or odd.
After all, this isn’t what you have observed of other people in your age range.
They are mostly married or at least in long-term relationships.
Other “normal” 30 year old people seem to be settled in their relationships and know what direction they want their relationships to go on moving forward.
On the other hand, there is you.
You have never had a long-term relationship.
You have never known what it is like to have someone there consistently as a partner and a companion.
This has left you feeling strange, left out and odd.
Your friends and family keep telling you that you should settle down as though it were that easy.
You feel like you are the black sheep of your generation.
Well, there is a reason why you have never had a long-term relationship.
If you have not been social most of your life, it is next to impossible to find a mate.
Examine your life and what you have been doing up until this point.
Never having tried putting yourself in social situations, you have been drastically reducing your chances of finding someone for a long-term relationship.
That person is not necessarily going to come to you at work or when you are in line at your local deli or when you are out and about running errands.
Examine how proactive you have been in your adult years in being social and meeting new people.
A change must be made.
Go to social events and mingle.
Stop turning down offers from friends when they invite you to a night out or a party.
Basically, start getting out of your comfort zone.
I know, you have spent a good chunk of your adult life not being so sociable.
It can be hard to change that now that you are so comfortable in it.
No one said that this was going to be easy.
How badly do you want to make a change?
If you want it bad enough, you will do what needs to be done.
Also, you should take note of your environment.
When you live in a small town that has very few dating prospects, you need to leave.
You can’t continue staying in a situation that has no real opportunity when it comes to dating prospects.
On the flip side, when you live in a bigger city and have found it difficult to date someone on a long-term basis, it often has to do with you hanging around the wrong crowd.
The city life is fast and many people who live there look at relationships with the same lens.
Your city crowd is all about the gloss and not about the substance.
Stop being around these people.
Find a different group of people with substance.
This increases the odds of meeting quality people who are much better prospects for long-term dating.
If you try and yet find it impossible to find people of substance in your city, move to another one.
Be proactive and make some aggressive moves in your life.
This is how you change your circumstances.
The power is in your hands.
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