You shouldn’t try to date at this time if you are insecure.
By dating, you would simply bring those insecurities into the relationship, which would make it that much harder for the relationship to work.
Figure out just why you are insecure.
Be really intent on finding out the source of your insecurity.
When you are able to identify the source, it is easier to figure out a way to beat it.
An insecurity about your looks for example, requires that you figure out what exactly it is about your looks that makes you insecure.
If it is your face, you can either start grooming it a lot better or learn to love and accept it.
You are born with the face that you have.
This is your reality.
You believe that it isn’t attractive but this is only your opinion.
Being rejected in the past isn’t enough for you to surmise that it had to do with your face.
You are purely assuming that it was your face.
You were rejected because the person was not at a place in their life where they felt comfortable pursuing a relationship with anyone.
In which case, this person actually did you a favor by rejecting you.
You have to start interpreting your negative experiences in a totally different way.
Understand that beauty is subjective.
What one person finds unattractive, another person might not.
You can’t judge your looks based on rejection.
There is someone out there who totally finds you attractive.
This person does exist.
Getting out of your social circle gives you a better play at being seen by this person.
This is one way that you can conquer your insecurity with your looks.
Either groom yourself or start accepting yourself.
Insecurity caused by a feeling that you aren’t socially viable with most people, calls for you to look inward and ask yourself why.
Do you have a hard time making new friends?
Do you have a hard time talking to people?
Well, when a sense of social awkwardness is the reason for your insecurity, talk to people that aren’t within your social circle.
This means that you will need to start talking to strangers or acquaintances you meet at your bus everyday, at work, at the post office, at the grocery store, etc.
Start getting into the habit of talking to people that you don’t know.
In time, you will get more and more comfortable doing this and you won’t feel so socially awkward.
You can start with something as simple as a hello and let the conversation flow from there.
This doesn’t need to be difficult.
It is quite painless when you just put out some effort.
You are not going out of your way to find these people.
These are people that you come across in your everyday life.
These are all exercises that will help you stop being insecure.
Once you are no longer insecure, you can date without the fear that your insecurity could lead the relationship astray.
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