Before panicking about this, consider the context in which your girlfriend is going to another guy’s house?
Context is relevant.
Is it for a celebration where there are a number of people attending?
Is it for a business meeting?
Is it in order to pick something up that she needs for work or for home?
Is it as a favor to a friend who needs something handled that involves this guy?
Is she going because she wants to hang out with a longtime friend?
Based on what your girlfriend tells you, you should be able to determine the reason.
Now, after having determined it, trust your girlfriend.
When you fully trust your girlfriend, you won’t be stressed and worried.
Think about why she is your girlfriend in the first place.
What qualities about her attracted you to her?
Try to remember those at this time.
In being open with you about going to this guy’s house and telling you the reason for it, she is being transparent.
She isn’t trying to hide anything from you.
This should encourage you and give you an idea of what her intentions are.
The danger of becoming jealous or worried about this is that such behavior makes your girlfriend upset and uneasy.
She doesn’t tell you that she feels that way, but she does.
She perceives that you don’t trust her.
After everything that she has shared with you, you don’t trust her.
You make accusations that aren’t true being carried away in the moment.
You don’t say out loud that you don’t believe her reason for going to this guy’s house, but you are thinking it.
Your girlfriend sees that in your face and your mannerisms, as she observes how you are responding to all of this.
This makes her decide to drop the whole thing and not go over to this guy’s house at all.
You are initially relieved at this decision but this is only the beginning of a strained relationship.
She is bound to remember this.
She knows that you don’t trust her.
In the future, she is compelled to lie to you about what she is going to do and who with.
She is compelled to lie to you about where she is going to hang out.
She does this knowing that the moment she mentions that there will be a guy there, you will freak out.
This leads to disdain and distrust on his part.
She doesn’t want to be put in this position.
A position where a partner feels compelled to become deceitful.
Once they get used to it, they justify something as egregious as cheating because they surmise their partner has been asking for it.
Why not give their partner a dose of what they keep implying that they are doing?
Hence, your biggest fear actually becomes your reality and you were the one that set it in motion.
Your relationship should be built on trust.
This is what makes it healthy and long-lasting.
You only have trust when you believe in each other and in the relationship that you have.
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