One of the best ways to know if she is trustworthy is in the kind of friends she keeps.
If you have met her friends and observed that they are trustworthy people, there is a good chance that she is trustworthy as well.
The same would also apply to her family.
If you have been around her family and you have noticed that the majority of them maintain healthy relationships in their own lives, there is a good chance that she is trustworthy.
Something that you have to realize is that there may be a reason why you are worried about making the wrong decision.
You should ask yourself why you are hesitant about her.
It could be due to something she told you in the past.
It could be due to rumors that you have heard about a past relationship that she was in.
It could be because you have actually had negative experiences in past relationships and now you are worried that it will be the same with her.
You have to understand where your hesitation is coming from.
If it is due to something she told you in the past, it wouldn’t hurt to ask her about it again.
Perhaps you misinterpreted what she said.
Perhaps she said it in this way because she didn’t quite know how to explain it.
If it is because you have heard rumors about a past relationship that she was in, understand that those were rumors.
It wouldn’t be fair to judge her by those rumors when you don’t really have all the facts.
Relationships are a two way street.
She may not be the one who is fully to blame for how her past relationship ended.
Again, understand that there are two sides to every story.
If this bothers you so much, you could bring it up to her and let her know that it is just something that you are trying to get off your chest.
If it is because of a negative experience you have had in a previous relationship that you were in, you should understand that she isn’t that person.
Whatever that person may have done to you was on them.
It had nothing to do with her.
She wasn’t even in the picture at the time.
It wouldn’t be fair to judge her based on this. It would be like someone else judging you or even blaming you for some strife that they may have gone through in their own lives.
That wouldn’t be fair because you had nothing to do with any of that.
In the end, truly knowing that she is trustworthy will require the test of time.
This is why it is important that you take your time to really get to know her before you get into an exclusive relationship with her.
The more time you spend getting to know her, the more opportunity you will have to notice whether she tends to contradict herself.
You may notice that she will tell you something one time and completely contradict herself the next time you see her.
If you notice a pattern of this, she isn’t being truthful to you.
Thereby, you need to be observant of what you are hearing from her.
In essence, she is making up stories and forgetting the details.
This would not be a trustworthy person.
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