He may be acting strange because he is doubtful about the relationship.
You may have recently said or done something that put him in this frame of mind.
You may not have even realized that you did.
He may have said nothing.
He may have continued acting like he wasn’t affected.
However, after the fact, he had time to think about it.
He had time to experience the after effects.
He didn’t like it.
He may be wondering if indeed you are the person he thought you were.
He may really be in his own head right now.
He may be constantly replaying that moment in his head wondering why you affected him in such a profound way.
The problem with guys like this is that they aren’t necessarily the best communicators.
A part of him may want to tell you all about this experience and how it made him feel but he doesn’t quite know how to do it.
He may not want to make you become defensive.
He may not want a confrontation.
He may be worried that he wouldn’t be able to express himself in the right way in order to get his point across.
He may even worry that he may appear weak or too sensitive.
There could be a number of reasons why he would choose to stay quiet about this.
Unfortunately, he chooses to act strange.
This doesn’t bode well for the both of you.
If you have noticed that he has been consistently acting strange, you should talk to him about it.
Understand that he may have a number of reasons why he hasn’t told you his problem.
As I mentioned earlier, he could be going through a lot of doubt.
You would need to be the one to get him to open up to you.
Simply tell him that you have noticed his behavior and you would like to work things out.
You would like to know what’s wrong.
You should do this in a loving tone that conveys concern and empathy.
He should get the impression that your intentions are pure.
He should get the impression that you are willing to listen and are open.
He may not initially come out and tell you what the problem is.
You may have to do a little bit more gentle persuasion.
However, if he truly cares about the relationship and where it is going, he will comply.
This is where you can be honest with him and show him your openness to listen.
Just let him talk.
Resist the temptation to interrupt him.
A guy typically gets a lot more confident in expressing himself when he is allowed the room to do so.
If he feels that you will interrupt him every time he speaks a sentence that you don’t agree with, he may close himself off and stop communicating.
This is the last thing you want.
Once you have allowed him to say his piece, ask him what he thinks the solution would be.
You would be showing him respect and giving him the sense of security in knowing that his opinion matters to you.
This is also where you can relate to whatever solution he gives and give him some of your ideas as well.
This is you working as a unit to fix this problem.
This is how you may save this relationship in a positive way.
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