It really depends on what the both of you have experienced and the dynamics of your interaction.
Some people get into a relationship within days.
Others take weeks.
Some others months.
The rare few can actually take years.
You shouldn’t make the mistake of comparing your relationship to those of your closest friends, family members or colleagues, in terms of how soon those relationships became official.
To be on the safe side, it is always good to give it at least 3 months before you begin to start considering this a relationship.
You should at least give it this much time because it will allow the both of you the opportunity to get to know each other better.
A popular trap that a lot of people fall into is to move too quickly.
They meet someone and get so excited that they decide to be in a relationship within days or a couple weeks.
The danger of doing this is that you are still stuck in the honeymoon period of the relationship where everything seems to be so amazing.
The dopamine in your brain is so strong at this point.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in the brain that causes euphoria and ecstasy.
When you are in the heat of the moment, your dopamine levels are very high.
These high levels can really impair your judgment.
This is why it is so important to give the dating process considerable time before you jump into any kind of relationship.
Typically, the people who jump right into relationships only after a few days or weeks of getting to know someone have the shortest lived relationships.
This is because once their excitement level comes back down to normal, the arguments set in and their relationship is as good as dead.
Hence, if you are trying to figure out a length of time, try simply being patient and allow the relationship to follow a natural path.
As long as the both of you are communicating and dating consistently, there will be a natural point where the both of you have transitioned into a relationship without even knowing it.
It may be a situation where you simply look at each other one day and kind of nod or smile at each other.
You both know that you are in a relationship and no words really had to be said.
However, you should understand that you really do need to invest the time and effort to know this person as thoroughly as you can.
You need to be able to see them when they are at their worst or weakest.
They also need to be able to see you when you are like this.
This is one of the most effective ways to ensure a stronger relationship in the future.
When someone has seen you when you were the least attractive both in person and in behavior and yet they still choose to continue dating you, that is a sign of acceptance and authenticity.
Obviously, to reach this point would require some time.
Hence, do give it at least 3 months or more before you start considering being in an exclusive relationship with this person.
You have to get through the honeymoon period of dating which typically occurs within the first 3 months of dating.
Once you get over this period where your dopamine levels are very high, you will be able to rationally assess the relationship and its worthiness for exclusivity.
This is the better place to be at mentally.
It helps to give you clarity.
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