Should I Date Her Or Walk Away?

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Should I Date Her Or Walk Away?

You should date her if you have developed some chemistry with her and you are on the same level of thinking.

You both have to want the same.

In other words, there should be an equal desire from both parties to date each other.

This shouldn’t be a one-sided intention or something forced.

Sometimes, a person may want to date someone a lot more than the other.

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This creates an imbalance in the relationship.

This means that one person will be putting a lot more work into this than the other.

This could cause a lot of frustration and stress.

If you truly believe that there is a mutual attraction and chemistry, you should date her.

If you feel like she has been putting in a good amount of effort in getting to know you and interact with you, you should date her.

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However, you should also understanding where you stand emotionally and mentally.

If you are currently unsure about pursuing a relationship in any capacity, your best option may be to walk away.

Some people make the mistake of getting into relationships even when they don’t want to simply because they felt they had to.

Perhaps they have always been in relationships or they don’t want to seem like the odd one out to their peers.

They choose to get into a relationship that they never really wanted because they apply undue pressure on themselves.

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You shouldn’t get into a relationship or start dating someone just because you feel that it is something that has to be done.

If your heart is not truly invested in wanting to date her, you will never give a hundred percent of yourself.

You may even grow to detest your relationship with her.

This would be truly unfortunate because it could have been easily avoided.

There is no reason to put yourselves through something so unnecessary. It is also unfair to the person that you are dating.

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They may truly believe that you care.

They may truly believe that you are dating them because of a mutual interest in romance and companionship.

It is very important that you address your own feelings right now and how you would feel about getting into a relationship with her.

Is she someone that you can truly see yourself sharing your future with?

Is she someone that you can truly see yourself opening up to?

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Are there other facets to your life that are a lot more of a priority to you right now?

You should really make an assessment of how you truly feel about all this.

Think it through.

Even if you may be attracted to her, you wouldn’t be able to be a true partner if you were to enter this reluctantly.

She would come to embody the person that stopped you from living the sort of life you wanted.

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She would be a person that you may begin to view as a burden rather than a benefit.

By so doing, you would ignore her needs and the relationship would suffer.

Be true to yourself and what you truly want.

Date her because you truly want to, not because you feel that you have to.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.