After First Date – Is He Interested Or Just Being Nice?

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After First Date - Is He Interested Or Just Being Nice?

If he is yet to ask you out on a second date, he is just being nice.

You may have had a really good time at the first date and it may have even been amazing.

You may have had good conversation.

Everything may have seemed perfect.

However, if it has been a few weeks since this first date and he is yet to ask you out again, he is showing strong signs that he isn’t interested in you romantically.

Even though you may have been carrying on conversations with him since that first date, he is not necessarily interested.

A guy who is truly interested would have asked you out again by now.

I know that there is a part of you that really wants to believe that all this is not about this guy being nice but about something more.

I know that there is a part of you that feels like the connection was too potent to merely be platonic in nature.

However, do understand that chemistry and romance is a two way street.

Just because you were feeling it doesn’t mean that he was as well.

No matter how great that first date was, when a guy hasn’t asked you out soon after that, he is showing that he is not motivated to do so.

Think about it for a moment.

How would most people react when they have been around someone that they really enjoyed?

They would want to be around that person again, right?

If he hasn’t asked for a second date, he isn’t trying to be around you.

That is how you know that he is not interested.

He may call you and chat.

He may continue to give you compliments or ask you more about yourself.

However, these are only words.

He has to act in order to show you that he has genuine romantic interest in you.

He would have to act by asking you out to a second date and he hasn’t done so.

Now, there can be some extenuating circumstances.

Perhaps he has had to leave town or tend to an ailing loved one.

This could cause a delay in his request for a second date.

Indeed, he may not be in the right frame of mind to consider a second date when he may have an ailing family member that he has to attend to at this time.

However, there should be a time that he decides to ask you out again.

There should be a time when he realizes that he misses you and wants to see you again.

He would want to see you in person.

He wouldn’t just want to keep texting into eternity.

When two people have a true romantic connection, they yearn to be around each other.

They yearn to be around each other’s energy.

He may initially be sincere in not being able to set up a second date due to family or business priorities but that shouldn’t become his act.

He shouldn’t continue to use that as an excuse.

He may still not ask for that second date even after those priorities have been tended to.

He may keep you around to make him feel like there is someone he can talk to but he isn’t taking it any further than that.

These are the moments when you should realize that he is not genuinely interested in you.

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