You may fall for the wrong guys because you don’t quite know what you want.
You may have a notion for what you want.
However, this doesn’t mean that you truly know what you want.
A lot of girls encounter this problem.
They may think that they want something in particular only to realize that they want something else.
Ultimately, they start bouncing from relationship to relationship because they keep changing their priorities.
This ends up becoming a waste of time both for them and the people that they get into relationships with.
You really have to figure out what it is you truly want in a mate and in your relationships.
It has to be something that perseveres.
It has to be something that you know you would want years down the line.
When you don’t do this, you will keep entering relationships believing that you have gotten what you want.
Unfortunately, not long afterward, you realize that what you thought you wanted wasn’t really sustainable.
You want something else now.
So you move on to the next relationship.
Something that can help you figure out what you want is to try to think of what you place the most value in.
What do you tend to value the most in life?
Do you value adventure, trust, humor, ambition etc? What do you tend to value most?
Write these down and really take a moment to consider each of them.
If these are elements that you value most, you may want to start dating guys who embody these.
Again, you have to ensure that these are elements you hold dear.
The best way to do this is to look at your history.
If you have had a long history of placing these elements of value in the forefront of your life, these elements have the best chance at being sustainable.
When you have found sustainable elements in your life and look for those in the guys you date, you will have a better chance of having a sustainable relationship.
This is because you are no longer running out of steam.
You are no longer getting into these relationships and getting bored in short order.
You have found a guy that embodies most if not all of these and hence your relationship can be more sustainable.
You should also start taking a look at the way you go about meeting guys.
If you tend to get hooked up by friends, you should try a different way to meet guys.
Your friends will only keep introducing the kind of guys that they believe would fit your preference, as well as theirs.
Yes, friends can be selfish too.
However, this doesn’t mean that these guys are the right ones for you.
There are so many ways to meet new guys now.
You can meet them online, in an organization of mutual interest, at the gym, in a coffee shop, etc.
Just start trying to put yourself out there so that you can expand your pool of possible dates.
If your dates in the past have been primarily coming from one source, you will most likely keep getting what you have been getting.
The wrong guys.
Hence, you do need to take account of your history.
It is through learning from history that you are able to make the necessary corrections to remedy a problem.
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