A girl feels more comfortable around you when you are comfortable with yourself first.
There is no point getting caught up in slowly getting a girl to feel more comfortable around you when you are uncertain and insecure in yourself.
Feeling comfortable within yourself permits you to have more confidence and knowledge in making her feel more comfortable around you.
Kick it off with making her laugh.
When people laugh, it produces endorphins in their brains.
Endorphins act as sedatives.
This affects the whole body.
As endorphins are released in the body, they help the body feel less stressed and more relaxed.
This is why making her laugh is so helpful in making her slowly feel more comfortable around you.
It loosens her up.
Her body language is more inviting.
She leans into you or plays with her hair as she laughs.
These are signs of romantic interest.
Tell her a story.
Yes, an anecdotal story that is captivating.
The more the story relates to your life experience, the better.
It has to be interesting and quizzical.
In other words, it makes her want to ask questions.
In continuously asking questions, you are making her feel more comfortable because she is invested in what you are saying.
A good story to tell is one that relates to what she has just told you.
She has told you about her pet dog and something he did the other day.
This is a fantastic opportunity to tell her a short anecdotal story about your experience with your dog on a particularly interesting day.
This helps you build rapport with her, as she relates to something you have in common, dogs.
She absorbs what you are saying in her brain and automatically pinpoints similarities.
Don’t be surprised when she gets excited and says something like, “My dog did just that when we were visiting my cousins.”
Telling her an interesting story that relates to something she told you, makes her feel more relaxed with you, as she is comforted in relating to you on the topic.
Touching is calming.
Whenever you lightly touch her from time to time as you speak, you make her feel a physical connection with you.
This is best done when you are already into an interesting conversation.
Her brain is involved in the conversation and doesn’t mind the occasional touch, feeling more and more comfortable with you.
You admire a tattoo on her or a birthmark and touch it while asking her about it.
Keep the touch connection for a while as she tells you the story behind the birthmark or tattoo before lightly releasing it.
She is focused on what she is divulging to you, not realizing that as she is letting you touch her, her sense of comfort around you grows.
Soon, she is automatically seeking your closeness.
She leans into you deeper, hugs you, and wraps her arms around you.
She is more comfortable around you than she has been with anyone else in her life.
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