When it comes to who men choose to make a relationship partner, there is a middle ground that they are looking for in reference to her independence.

We will get to the middle ground in a second.

An independent woman can be highly attractive to a guy who was raised around that caliber of woman, or who has them as friends or colleagues.

This is the environment he is used to.

Naturally, a guy like this is attracted to independent women, as that is what he knows and is used to.

A man who wants an independent woman is seeking someone who is an equal partner in the relationship, in a financial and emotional sense.

This man has had some bad experiences in the past with women who weren’t independent.

He feels like he was used for what he had to offer financially or emotionally.

He felt drained by this relationship and realizes that he only wants to date independent women from here on out.

A man who doesn’t want an independent woman is a guy who grew up in an environment where he didn’t see too much of that.

This influences how he behaves in relationships.

He believes that a dependent woman should be the norm and that he should be the one to make all the decisions.

Wrestling with an independent woman makes him uneasy.

He isn’t in a situation that he is comfortable in, so he acts in an abrasive manner toward her, or wants to push the relationship toward an angle he wants and is used to.

A man who doesn’t want an independent woman has insecurity issues sometimes.

He believes that his role as a man is threatened if he were to be with a woman who was independent.

He puts a great amount of meaning into his role.

This is how he defines himself and what enables him to function on a daily basis.

This is how he identifies himself within society, and he doesn’t want that threatened.

Now, let’s address the middle ground position that I spoke about earlier.

This is where lots of men fall.

Men want a woman who is independent but not to the point where he is emasculated.

They want to do nice things for a woman without fearing that he is trampling on her independence.

For example, he wants to be chivalrous towards her and open a door or pull out a seat without the fear she resents him.

A resentment stemming from making a judgment that he regards her as less than.

He wants her to compliment him from time to time on a job well done without fearing she sees that as redundant, on account of being her partner.

Men prefer being appreciated and acknowledged for what they do.

They want to be chivalrous without having to fear repercussions.

These men believe that an independent woman can give them these things, and remain independent.