To get over your crush, you would have to understand that they simply didn’t feel the same way about you as you did for them.
This can be something that is hard to accept.
You may have wanted this crush to like you so badly. You may have envisioned what it would be like to date this crush or have this crush as a boyfriend or girlfriend.
However, you will have to come back to reality. You will have to understand that attraction and interest is a two way street. No matter how much you like this crush, they would have to feel the same for this to work.
Once you begin to allow yourself to see the two way nature of all of this, you will be able to get over your crush a lot easier and a lot faster. This realization helps you to begin to accept your reality.
You begin to accept the fact that you are just one individual. You cannot impose your will on someone else. That other person has to be willingly feeling the attraction for this to work.
Try to also understand that you would want a crush who truly liked you. You wouldn’t want one who was just dating you because they felt forced into a relationship or felt sorry for you.
You have to be able to value yourself enough to understand that you are worth being truly liked by someone. You would want your crush to be with you because they truly wanted to be.
This is when you realize that this is something you shouldn’t force any longer. The last thing you should want is to be with someone who will ultimately break up with you because they weren’t being genuine in the first place.
Perhaps they use you because they can see just how much you are into them. However, they have no interest in being a true boyfriend or girlfriend. They use you for the moment to fulfill a particular need that they have.
It could be a need for intimacy or to simply have their egos boosted. However, in the end, they have every intention of ditching you once you have given them what they wanted and someone better comes along.
You will find it a lot easier to get over this crush when you understand that by letting go of this crush you could be saving yourself from being in a position where you are being used.
Another effective way to get over your crush is to begin to observe your crush’s flaws.
It can be very easy to become so enamored by a crush that you begin to believe that they can do no wrong or have no flaws.
They actually do have flaws. They are human after all.
No one is perfect.
No one is infallible.
When you begin to notice that your crush isn’t all that perfect, you will begin to allow yourself to get over them.
The reality of who they are becomes more apparent.
You may notice that they may not always say the right things or may not always address people in the right manner.
You may notice that they have a poor sense of style or a poor taste in friends.
You may notice that they aren’t as good at a particular task or activity as they try to make themselves seem.
This will enable you to start looking at your crush as a regular person.
It knocks them off that pedestal that you once put them on.
This helps you get over your crush.
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