Yes, losing a guy’s interest by trying too hard to date him is a real factor, regardless of how kind and pleasant of a woman you are.

Trying too hard to date him puts him in a panic.

A panic that triggers questions in his mind about how desperate you are.

When a guy suspects that you are desperate, he creates negative scenarios in his mind about what it would be like to date you.

He worries that you would be too needy or clingy if he were to date you.

This is where he is visualizing you as a future girlfriend constantly nagging him about where he is, insinuating that he must be at a girl’s house.

Furthermore, you insist on hanging out with him all the time, guilting him whenever he wants to hang out with his friends.

Being a kind and pleasant woman won’t sway him from this line of thinking.

If anything, he deems that your kindness and pleasantness is an act.

Once you trick him into getting into a relationship with this act, he suspects that the real you will come out, and now he is stuck with a crazy girlfriend.

Due to panic, he makes himself believe that your kindness and pleasantness is an act to get him to like you.

With this much trepidation, he loses interest in you.

It is never a good idea to try too hard to date a guy.

Not only do you appear desperate, you come off as though you don’t have a life of your own.

Ask yourself why you were trying too hard to get this guy to date you.

Do a self-introspection.

Are you lonely?

Has it been a while since you were in a relationship?

Have you never been in a good relationship?

This is a guy that you are placing too much of your romantic hopes on.

The truth is, you don’t know what his dating history is.

Although you have made him out to be the ideal boyfriend in your mind, this goes against reality.

Never assume that he is the exact match of what you have created in your mind as the ideal boyfriend.

He isn’t.

No guy can compete with the fantasy of the ideal boyfriend that you have created in your mind.

The truth is, it isn’t improbable that he has had a string of toxic relationships with his previous relationship partners.

Never assume that you know what a guy is all about, and that he is perfect for you, based on your initial impressions of him, and the stories you have created about him in your mind as a result.

When you are too consumed with getting a guy to date you, you run a risk of jeopardizing everything.

He becomes suspicious of your behavior, and loses interest in you soon after.