A relationship isn’t going to work out when you have put all of the onus on yourself to keep it on track.

There must be a balanced approach to keeping a relationship viable.

This is where either party is equally contributing to the betterment of the relationship.

When you put all of the onus on yourself, you place far too much pressure on yourself, which hurts a relationship.

In lieu of this, you have to be on the same page as far as what is expected from the relationship.

Once this is established, you and your partner have to work towards these goals as a team.

The relationship isn’t going to work out when you aren’t on the same page as your partner, in terms of what you expect from the relationship.

Without agreement, the relationship is going to falter.

In having a candid conversation with each other about expectations, you determine whether these expectations are aligned.

This has to be established early on.

Without doing this first, you enter a relationship under the impression that you are on the same page with each other.

This leads to a string of arguments and tension throughout the relationship, and a final realization that you are on totally different trajectories.

Unfortunately, this process could take years.

Years have been wasted because you never had this conversation in the early stages of the relationship.

Don’t make this blunder.

Having this conversation saves you so much grief in a relationship.

When you are on the same trajectory with your partner as far as what you want out of the relationship, it’s easier to work towards your mutual goals.

Instead of getting into a relationship blind, you go in with eyes open.

In the early stages of courtship, take the time to get to know each other.

Don’t get overly excited about any information you learn from each other when it is this early.

When you fall prey to this, you make a judgment of the person based on this information far too soon.

To be certain that the character trait that got you excited is real, you have to witness it occur several times over as you get to know the person.

The character trait that got you excited is bound to repeat itself, if it is a legitimate trait.

This is when you know that he isn’t faking a character trait.

Letting yourself get too excited about a character trait that you have witnessed only once, compels you to make a premature judgment.

You mislead yourself into thinking that this person is perfect, based on this frivolous one-time exposure to said character trait.

Before you know it, you are creating an emotional bond that is unwarranted at such an early stage.

The same can be said if you are exposed to a character trait you didn’t like.

Unless you witness it occur repeatedly, you mustn’t make an instant negative judgment of your counterpart.

Be patient in the early stages of getting to know each other.

Increase your knowledge of each other through robust conversations.

The truth is, this patience has a tendency to pay off.

If you are a good match, you are going to be exposed to supplementary facets of this person’s personality, making them increasingly appealing as time goes on.

When there is a mutual decision to get into an exclusive relationship with each other, it is done after having spent the right amount of time getting to know each other, and agreeing on expectations.