Within the first one or two conversations you have with him.

So, real early.

You shouldn’t be going out on dates with him in the first place.

It should have never gotten this far.

What you should have done is establish whether he owns cats or not within the first or second conversation you had with him.

Upon establishing that he does, that would have been your cue to refrain from pursuing anything romantic with him.

Being super allergic to cats isn’t your fault.

You didn’t ask to be like this.

But you are.

Hives develop on your body that last for weeks whenever you are around a cat.

The itch is so bad, you can’t sleep during these weeks.

Additionally, you have to contend with other allergic reactions including eye irritation, nasal congestion, sneezing, coughing, and facial acne.

This is no joke.

This isn’t about worrying about a sneeze or two whenever you are around a cat.

The effect on your health is gargantuan and doesn’t let up for weeks.

This alone should tell you that it isn’t worth it to entertain the idea of dating a guy who owns cats.

Whenever you talk to a dating prospect, you must establish whether he owns cats within the first one or two conversations.

Never get yourself in a situation where you are dating someone for weeks or months and you have never brought up the question of whether he owns cats.

It doesn’t benefit you to bring it up weeks or months down the line either.

By this time, you have established an emotional connection to him and have developed feelings.

This makes it so much harder for you to let him go.

Never let it get this far.

Find out whether he owns cats within the first one or two conversations you have with him.

The sooner you know, the better.

It saves you from wasting weeks and months of your precious time talking to someone who won’t work.

No, he isn’t going to give up his cats for you.

Don’t even go there.

Those cats have been with him through dark days.

He is emotionally attached to them, like a parent to their children.

He wouldn’t entertain the thought of giving them up for you.

Plus, it is rather selfish to expect this of someone.

You never have to get this far with him, as long as you establish whether he owns cats from the outset.

In your particular case, you either didn’t establish this early or you told yourself that somehow it will work out.

Well, you are now in a pickle.

Your best option is to tell him now and amicably end your romantic courtship with him.

Yes, I know, it hurts.

But you put yourself in this position by not addressing this question early or choosing to mislead yourself into believing that somehow it will all work out.

Best to tell him now.

Not doing so is basically leading him on.

Is that fair?

Tell him that you are super allergic to cats, but don’t follow that up with expecting him to do something about it.

Like, get rid of his cats.

There is nothing wrong with being friends, if you two are open to that.

A romantic relationship on the other hand is out of the question.