When you want to get out of a date, after realizing that you don’t like a guy, and have changed your mind on going out with him, be candid with him.

Apologize for accepting the date in the first place, and tell him that you are no longer interested in going.

For some, this is hard to do, but being direct is the right approach moving forward.

Using an excuse instead of a candid approach is ill-advised.

This leaves him believing that you like him, and as result, he keeps courting you.

Using the ghosting method is ill-advised too.

This has an effect of getting him that much more desperate, causing him to hound you relentlessly.

This makes your life a living mess.

Is that what you want?

People prefer honesty above ambiguity, no matter how much they were hoping for a different outcome.

When you are candid about your disinterest, the person is no longer hanging on to hope, and this is beneficial in getting them to move on from you quicker.

When you tell him that you are no longer interested, you have to be clear about it.

Being ambiguous about it keeps him hopeful about going out on a future date.

Close out that possibility by letting him know that you appreciate his offer, but you are not interested in going out on a date.

You are worried that you are going to hurt his feelings in telling him this.

But, you do much worse in not telling him the truth.

You are not responsible for how he handles the truth.

That is his responsibility.

What you are responsible for is telling him the truth and presenting your message unambiguously.

Even though a straightforward approach is the right approach, many girls continue to grapple with using this approach to get out of a date.

There is an alternative approach.

Ask him if it is alright if you brought a few friends along for the date.

He is going to ask you why you want to do this.

Tell him that you don’t want to give him the wrong impression about the date, and would much rather meet him in a group setting.

He is going to ask you whether you like him romantically.

This is when you kindly tell him that you don’t, but would love to maintain a friendship with him and introduce him to your friends at the date.

This is when he is going to get out of the date himself by giving you an excuse as to why he has to cancel it.

In introducing friendship, you have made it clear to him that you are not interested in going out on any further romantic dates with him.

He knows you are no longer a romantic prospect and moves on.