You believe that you did everything right in the relationship, and he let you go nonetheless.

In these moments, as human beings, we are our own worst enemy.

We put the reason for the breakup on ourselves.

You are struggling with coming up with why you weren’t good enough for him, when you did everything in your power to be just that.

Unfortunately, before you got into a relationship with him, it was already doomed.

He was never emotionally available.

You made yourself believe that you could change that.

It was a challenge and you wanted to be worthy of him.

Unfortunately, in taking the plunge to capture his heart, he captured yours.

Too premature.

He wasn’t emotionally available to you still.

As someone who now had feelings for him, you made yourself believe you had won.

You had gotten him to open up to you emotionally.

To be sure, there were several moments where it looked like you had succeeded.

He was opening up to you.

He was smiling and laughing.

He was showing affection.

He wasn’t doing any of this when you were in the early stages of dating him.

This left you with a sense of accomplishment.

You had finally gotten him to open up to you emotionally.

He was telling you stories about his childhood and intimate accounts of his strained relationship with his family.

You had made a breakthrough.

At this stage, you needed to believe that you had made a breakthrough, having unexpectedly caught feelings for him.

Alas, after a series of dramatic ups and downs in your relationship with him, he called it quits.

Since then, you have been consumed with believing that you weren’t good enough for him.

It hurts to think that the amount of time you spent working so diligently to get him to open up to you meant nothing.

To reiterate, he was never emotionally available to you.

Beating yourself up about the breakup is a waste of your brain power.

You were never destined to win.

Granted, he was open to sex.

That fulfills his physical needs, not his emotional.

If it is any solace to you, no girl has a shot at opening him up in the mental state he is in.

He is the only person capable of getting himself out of the emotional funk he is in.

Women make the mistake over and over again in believing that they have what it takes to get an emotionally unavailable guy to change and open up to them.

While in the process, they end up falling for the guy, which compels them to try even harder.

They are too emotionally attached to the outcome.

Unfortunately, he ends up leaving her anyway and she is left wondering why she wasn’t good enough.

He has a past history that has nothing to do with you.

Whether his emotional trauma originates from childhood trauma or a past relationship, that is for him to sort out.

You don’t have the power to fix what is transpiring in his head.

Until he is ready to do what has to be done to get his head in the right space where he has mental clarity and no emotional baggage, he has done you a favor in leaving.

Take this as a life lesson and move on.