As a virgin, the ideal guy you want to date is likewise.

It matters to you that he is a virgin.

Knowing that he is a virgin tells you that you share a kinship with him.

It is not an easy undertaking to choose not to have sex as a young adult.

Given that your friends and many others have done it and keep pressuring you to do it, you have had to exercise a lot of discipline to avoid giving in.

You know so many guys who sleep around and you don’t want to be their sloppy seconds, thirds or fourths.

You want the occasion to be special when you give up your virginity.

The guy must perceive the momentousness of the occasion too.

A guy who has slept with a bunch of girls wouldn’t feel how special the moment was.

You are yet another girl he is sleeping with, on his roster of many.

There is nothing wrong with refusing to date guys who aren’t virgins, regardless of how much they connive to make you feel bad about it.

It’s reverse psychology.

In making you think that you are doing something wrong for having this mindset, you call yourself into question.

You question whether you are thinking this through correctly.

There is a fear of being ostracized and you don’t want that.

You don’t want people in your circle to constantly look at you with eyes of judgment and ridicule.

In spite of that, you are convicted about this.

And you should be.

Making the decision to refuse to date guys who are not virgins wasn’t done on a whim.

It isn’t strictly about saving yourselves for a special moment that neither one of you has experienced before, or avoiding becoming a guy’s sloppy seconds, thirds or fourths.

On a subconscious level, you are aware that dating a guy who is a virgin provides a level of emotional and relationship security when it comes to the topic of cheating.

Studies have shown that the more partners a person has, the greater the likelihood they cheat on their partner.

Choosing to date a guy who is a virgin decreases the likelihood that he cheats on you down the line.

It gives you a chance to develop a deep bond with him without the constant fear of him breaking your heart by cheating on you.

There isn’t a pressing suspicion that he came home late from work one night because he was in a motel room somewhere having sex with a coworker.

You know implicitly that he arrived home late from work because he was genuinely inundated with tasks and had a deadline he had to meet.

When you have this safety net in a relationship, it creates a cohesive atmosphere, enabling you two to build trust.

This sets the foundation for a healthy relationship.

In a day and age where relationships are constantly cut short and ended due to infidelity, dating a guy who is a virgin provides an uncanny durability that is elusive to many people who weren’t virgins before meeting their partners.