Most guys in your age bracket don’t mind dating a 20 year old virgin.
In the end, guys want to be with someone they are attracted to.
Guys are simple in this aspect.
Reading too much into why guys do what they do or what they expect is unwise.
This is where your lack of experience runs you astray.
When you do this, you jeopardize your chances with guys because you are focused on how much you don’t meet this or that expectation.
Guys are uncomplicated.
There is no need to overcomplicate things.
When your complete focal point is in being a 20 year old virgin, you hamper your ability to show your true personality.
The guys don’t know how wonderful of a person you are because you are so self-conscious about this or that.
You have to open up to guys without this constant worry about being a 20 year old virgin.
A quality guy who is genuinely into you is not going to care about that.
That isn’t in the forefront of his mind.
He is not going to bed each day thinking, “Is she a 20 year old virgin?”
He is going to bed thinking, “She was great and I can’t wait to talk to her again.”
At least, this is how it starts.
As time goes on, when you are showing signs of insecurity on account of this issue, his thought process changes.
No, he is not thinking, “Is she a 20 year old virgin?”
Instead, what he is thinking now is, “She seemed so special at first but she is acting strange now. I don’t know about this anymore.”
Right there, you are potentially about to lose a guy who was initially very into you.
He initially judged you based on your personality and how good you made him feel.
He enjoyed how you got along with each other and felt like there was a connection.
Now that he has spent more time with you and the insecure “I am a 20 year old virgin” side of you has come out, he is now not as energized and enthused as he was initially.
You see what happened here?
Being a 20 year old virgin wasn’t what turned him off, it was that you were being excessively unsure of yourself and acting in a fashion that reflected that.
You do this with guys the more you get to know them and they get to know you.
All of a sudden you are realizing that you like this guy and now the insecurity of being a 20 year old virgin takes center stage.
Don’t let this happen.
This guy likes you for you.
His primary concern is not that you are a 20 year old virgin but that you enjoy each other’s company and get along.
Develop a habit of talking to a guy organically without the insecurity of fear.
Your identity has nothing to do with being a virgin.
Your identity lies in who you are as a person.
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