If this is the first time you are going out on a date with her, it’s best to keep it simple.
Meeting her for coffee or lunch would typically work best for this occasion.
If she is someone that you don’t know all that well, this approach for your date would be the best idea because it relieves the both of you from undue pressure.
When you are instantly asking her to dinner and a movie, you are automatically indicating that you are expecting to invest quite a bit of time on this date.
There is now an undue pressure on the both of you.
You both start wondering if this is going to end up being a really long night if the both of you don’t get along during the first part of the date which would be dinner.
All of a sudden, this first date which should have been fun is now making the both of you wonder about the possibilities.
The weight of these thoughts could really put you both down and make you even more nervous for the date.
If this is your first date with her, you should really try to avoid negative thoughts or the sense of undue pressure.
Asking her to dinner and a movie works a lot better for a second or third date.
A second date would indicate that you both had a really good time on the first date and there was a connection.
You would know more about each other and would now have a real liking for each other.
It would be a lot easier for the both of you to envision a relatively long evening together because you had already interacted with each other in the first date.
You got to observe each other and feel each other out.
You got to observe mannerisms.
You got to relate to each other by hearing each other’s stories. In essence, the ice was broken.
Now, instead of worrying whether dinner and a movie would be a long night, you are both looking forward to spending even more time together on this second or third date.
This is when asking her to dinner and a movie would work best.
If this is your first date with her, keep it simple.
You want her to feel as comfortable as she can be on that date.
If you go for coffee or lunch, you are both within your element.
It doesn’t feel like you are both doing something out of the ordinary with each other.
She probably meets you at her favorite place for her lunch breaks from work or her favorite coffee shop.
There is a sense that this is casual and that all parties can relax and just be themselves.
Also, by keeping it simple and short, you make each other that much more intent on spending more time together on your second date.
You actually give her something to really look forward to.
Doing dinner and a movie can end up being a really special night if you do it on the right date.
It may actually become a night to truly remember.
I know that you may be trying to impress her by thinking about doing dinner and a movie this soon but you would go a lot further with her if you were patient and kept things simple at the start.
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