After a good second date, contact the girl on the same day or the next and ask for a third date.
Don’t make the mistake of believing that you should wait for days or a week or more to contact the girl.
So many guys fall prey to this mistake, believing that in asking the girl for a third date too soon, they come off as desperate and turn the girl off.
This has no basis in truth.
After a good second date, a girl wants you to contact her and ask her out again as soon as possible.
She wants to get to know you.
She is probably as excited about you as you are in her.
She didn’t show too much of this excitement in these last two dates, being cautious and guarded.
A girl does this so as not to come off as too eager.
She is guarded in the sense that she doesn’t want to let too much of her emotions to get out.
She doesn’t want to dedicate too much of her feelings on the guy unless she has gotten to the place where she is certain that the guy is for real.
He isn’t purely telling her words that she wants to hear or telling her that he would love to see her again to pay lip service to it.
He is taking action.
Although he loves telling her sweet words, he is showing the respect he has for her by giving her his full attention whenever they are socializing.
The focus is on her and he remembers what she tells him, wanting to learn more and asking follow-up questions.
Telling her that he would love to see her again is backed up with him taking action by asking her out soon after and making concrete plans for the date.
This is what makes a girl feel like she is dealing with a guy who is authentic and genuine in his approach.
When a guy decides that he will take several days or weeks to contact a girl after a good second date, he is planting the seeds of doubt in her mind.
He is making the girl wonder whether he is truly sincere and cares about the interaction.
Remember that at this early stage, a girl is most likely going to be guarded with her heart and feelings.
She will not want to open it up to a guy who seems sporadic in his communication with her.
She doesn’t want to put herself in such a vulnerable position.
By taking too long to contact this girl, you lose her entirely.
You believe that by waiting this long to contact her, you are making her think about you and wonder about what you are up to.
Yes, you are.
She won’t stay in this mode for too long, as she is prone to find a way to guard her heart.
This means that with each incident in which you decide to contact her sporadically, she gets a bit more closed off to you emotionally.
To reiterate, she is guarding her emotions and thereby her heart.
By the time you come around to asking her for a third date, she has moved on emotionally and doesn’t want to go on one with you.
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