Should I Make The First Move?

Should I Make The First Move?


This is clearly someone that you have been thinking about for some time or that you have noticed for some time.

It would be to your detriment to continuously ask yourself what you should do about this person.

You are clearly interested in this person.

You would have to take it upon yourself to make the first move.

Do understand that making the first move doesn’t mean that you are desperate or that you are even necessarily expecting something romantic to come out of this.

Making the first move can be something as simple as opening up a conversation with this person or giving them a compliment of some kind.

So many people get so caught up in what the first move should be about that they blow it out of proportion.

The first move doesn’t have to be so weighty and laborious.

If you simply look at it as the beginning process in getting to know someone, it will be a lot easier for you to make the first move in a much more natural fashion.

Waiting for too long to make the first move can be to your disadvantage.

The longer you wait to do it and just keep asking yourself whether you should do it, the harder it will be to do.

In this case, time would actually be your enemy.

The more that time elapses without you having made the first move, the more questions and scenarios you are going to create in your head.

It is what the human mind does.

You will begin to create all kinds of scenarios of what could possibly happen if you were to make the first move.

The human mind in instances like this will often go to the negative outcomes.

In your mind’s eye, you will see a person that turns you down.

You will see a whole lot of awkwardness.

You will see an inability to articulate and maintain a decent conversation with this person.

You will see a person that may be looking at you as though you have something on your face.

In other words, you will see the most negative scenarios.

These kind of thoughts continue to build up over time the longer you wait to make the next move.

This is why people eventually give up on making the first move altogether.

They have waited for so long that they have created all kinds of negative imaginary scenarios that have left them mentally exhausted.

You don’t want to be this person.

Understand that the sooner you make the first move, the sooner you will discover whether there is romantic potential.

You will never truly know that unless you make that first move.

You would be in a much better situation if you were to make the first move and thereby find out whether there is romantic potential or not.

This way, you can get rid of the questions that continue to weigh you down about this person.

You can actually be done with all those questions and give yourself some peace.

Making the first move gives you clarity and purpose.

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