This Guy Has Been Pursuing Me Forever, Should I Give In?

This Guy Has Been Pursuing Me Forever, Should I Give In?

If you like him, match his energy and believe that there is romantic potential, yes, you should give in.

You have to do this with a strong idea of where you stand in all of this.

Merely giving in because he has been persistent in pursuing you forever isn’t a strong enough reason to do it.

In fact, using this approach may do a lot more harm than good.

You would be giving in because you are trying to reward him for his persistence or you are simply tired of him trying so hard.

This approach doesn’t necessarily indicate that this is a guy that you truly like.

Perhaps you have reached a point in your life where there are no other dating prospects of interest.

You figure that this guy has been pursuing you forever and you might as well try him out and see how it goes.

Your mentality in this instance is not one of excitement and interest.

It’s one of resignation.

A person with this mindset will often invest very little of their emotion in the dating process.

You would let him continue doing all the work because you are merely there out of convenience.

This is not the right kind of approach if you are wondering whether you should give in.

You should be just as excited to begin to get to know this guy as he is in you.

You should be curious about getting to know him.

You should be open to what he has to say and also be open to showing him a part of you that he has probably never seen.

When you know that you are ready to be honest and open with this guy, you may be ready to give in to this.

Since he has been pursuing you for so long, he may have no real idea of the kind of person you are.

He may have an idealized version of what he may think you are.

This is obviously not necessarily going to be the real you.

After all, you are a person who does have flaws like everyone else.

In determining whether you should give in, you have to be able to come to terms with your willingness to truly show him what you are all about.

You have to be willing to show him that side of you that may not be as resplendent as he believes you are.

You will have to be able to determine whether you are truly willing to open up to him as opposed to simply date him out of necessity or because there was no one better to date.

In other words, you have to take this seriously.

You can’t walk into this lightly.

You can’t just think that you will give in for the time being until someone better comes along.

Your mindset shouldn’t be that of complacency.

You should be enthused and even a little nervous yourself.

How is he going to respond to the real you?

Well, this is the attitude required in order to determine whether you should give in.

If you don’t believe that you are just as excited as he is, don’t give in.

If you aren’t willing to show him the real you, which does come with the good and the bad, don’t give in.

To do so would be doing it for the wrong reasons.

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