Your boyfriend is taking advantage of you.
After all, you are wondering whether he is.
These are your internal instincts telling you that there is something wrong.
Do you feel like you give a lot and he gives a lot less?
You are the one who makes the sacrifices, letting him do whatever he wants to do without any regard given to what you want.
Is he complacent in doing this?
Does he ever try to give you what you want, or at least, try to compromise?
When you are the one who does the giving and makes the sacrifices, your boyfriend is taking advantage of you.
That being said, there is enough blame to go around.
When you perpetually facilitating this behavior, you are putting him in a position where he knows that he can take advantage and not have to reciprocate.
You are working so hard to make him happy, you do these acts without his prompting.
When you make the sacrifices or give him everything he wants, he is inclined to take it.
After all, you are offering it.
He doesn’t always ask for what you are giving.
Yet you keep giving, so he keeps taking.
Come to terms with your actions.
If you have been giving him all of this without his prompting, you have been facilitating his behavior.
You are the one who has caused this problem.
Your boyfriend was perfectly alright with a shared relationship that required a give and take.
Nevertheless, right from the start, you were giving him everything and he wasn’t even asking for it.
After a while, he got used to it and now he doesn’t know how to reciprocate.
He isn’t aware that he is supposed to reciprocate, having gotten used to how much you give.
Should this be you, you have to stop.
Let your boyfriend know that you have needs too and you can’t keep making all the sacrifices.
Determine what you want out of this relationship.
Where do you want this relationship to go?
It isn’t improbable that you are with a boyfriend who isn’t compatible with you.
Confirm whether you are with a boyfriend who is selfish by nature or spoiled.
Has he been spoiled by you or family and friends?
If he is spoiled, telling him that you want your needs met could be enough of a remedy.
But, when he is selfish by nature, he isn’t the best choice of a boyfriend for you, given that you are looking for a healthy long-term relationship.
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