It is normal to go through phases when it comes to your significant other.
No relationship is ever completely smooth and even throughout.
There are moments when you don’t get along or you don’t want your SO around for a period of time.
This is why it is prudent to always ensure that you both develop lives that are separate from each other as well.
In other words, you don’t have to always be around each other, doing every single thing together.
Find your own hobbies or tasks that are independent from each other.
Find hobbies or activities that give you time away from each other so that you learn more about yourself, and put yourself around other people.
These moments away from each other strengthens your relationship.
They help you appreciate yourself as an individual and enlightens you on what your significant other brings to your life.
It’s difficult to grasp this when you are always knee-deep in the relationship.
When you are constantly around each other, you don’t have the opportunity to take a good look at the relationship you have.
There is less room to see your relationship’s strengths and weaknesses, as you are always so busy being in it and doing this or that together.
The more you develop these separate ways by which you can learn more about yourself and simultaneously put yourself in a different environment, the less phases you have within your relationship with your SO.
Figure out whether these phases occur at similar points in time.
These phases with your SO occur at a particular time of year or when an anniversary or annual meet-up is coming up.
Should these phases occur around important dates or at a particular time of the year, you have to work on the underlying problem.
Your SO gets stressed during this particular time of year or at these important dates.
There is a reason for that.
Finding out what that reason is helpful in reducing the amount of phases that you have, or at least, alleviating the pressure of those phases on your relationship.
Your SO gets stressed during these times, feeling like you want something that they can’t deliver.
Perhaps they believe that your expectations are too profound.
They don’t want to dedicate as much time or effort to that upcoming anniversary or that meet-up with family.
They aren’t keen on making that yearly financial commitment to a particular course or family member, feeling that the money is better spent elsewhere.
There could be a number of reasons for these phases.
It helps to know whether these phases occur during a particular time.
This is where you address the issue and try to fix it.
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