You will have to judge that based on how you have been behaving and how your boyfriend has been reacting.
Constant arguments with your boyfriend over something you said or did could be an indication that you are a bad girlfriend.
This is even more true when your boyfriend is not the argumentative type by nature.
He doesn’t seem happy to be around you, which is the opposite of how he felt in the beginning of the relationship.
Constantly finding yourself jealous of the prospect of your boyfriend hanging out with his friends or family members without you being there, has you looking more and more like a bad girlfriend.
On top of this, in never giving yourself the chance to grow as a person and merely living vicariously through your boyfriend, you are demonstrating that you have no strong sense of self and would much rather suffocate your boyfriend.
This is bad.
When you never give your boyfriend the opportunity to be himself and feel comfortable being so, you are being uncompromising.
There are lots of reasons why you could be a bad girlfriend.
The first place you need to look at is within yourself.
What do you think about when you think about your relationship?
What is the first emotion that comes into you?
Is it negative or positive?
A negative feeling is your signal that something is wrong.
A positive feeling that is laced with doubt later on yet another sign that something is wrong.
You aren’t aware that some of your behavior has been having a negative impact on the relationship and on your boyfriend.
You believe that it has all been for the best and you only have the best intentions.
The best indicator of just how unhelpful what you have been doing has been is in how negatively both your boyfriend and the people that you are close to have been reacting to it.
How have your friends been responding to you lately?
Do they want to hang around you less?
Have you noticed that you have been having a lot more issues or arguments with some of your friends as well?
Have you noticed that whenever you are around your friends or family, all you seem to be doing is complaining?
Have you tried to know how the lives of your friends are going?
Has it strictly been all about you and what you are feeling?
When it is all about you, you will primarily talk about you and complain about only your issues to your friends or family.
This is where you have to take a step back and realize that the problem here isn’t your boyfriend, it is you.
You are acting inconsiderate and selfish.
If you are this way with your friends, you will most likely be the same way with your boyfriend.
You have to be aware of these emotions and temper them.
This is your first step in becoming that better girlfriend.
Your boyfriend should feel good about being around you without the worry that it is always going to be about you.
Once you come to this realization and take effective action, you will no longer be a bad girlfriend.
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