If the both of you decided to be in an exclusive relationship these last 2 months and he is still actively sending messages to women on the dating site, you should dump him.
If you are in an exclusive relationship, there is simply no reason for this.
He shouldn’t be messaging other women.
That wouldn’t be honoring your relationship.
If anything, he shouldn’t even have his dating profile still up.
It is important that both parties are always honest with each other.
Honesty and trust is the foundation by which healthy and long-lasting relationships are built.
Clearly, he isn’t showing that he is trustworthy by doing this.
If this were to continue, he is already showing what he would be like in a relationship.
This tends to reflect the kind of character you’re dealing with.
Even if he were to apologize and tell you that he wouldn’t do it again, he probably would do it again once the smoke clears and tempers have dissipated.
This is the sort of guy you are most likely dealing with.
He is trying to eat his cake and have it too.
There is a part of him that wants to keep you but also wants to continue pursuing other options at the same time.
This is not the kind of relationship that bodes well for anyone who is looking for consistency and faithfulness.
Now, if the both of you aren’t in an exclusive relationship, this is a different story.
If he has never told you that he is in an exclusive relationship with you and has been honest with the fact that he is dating other women, you will have to understand this.
He was never in a exclusive relationship with you if this is the case.
This means that the both of you were free to date whoever and as many people as you wanted at the same time.
In other words, if that exclusive talk was never had and he always let you know that he is active on the online dating site, he hasn’t done anything that you shouldn’t have seen coming.
Perhaps you simply made an assumption that you were both dating exclusively simply because you have been on a lot of dates together and have even been intimate.
This isn’t the right kind of thinking.
You both met on an online dating site.
The biggest draw of online dating sites is the opportunity to date lots of people.
If you don’t talk about being exclusive, you can’t expect this other person to simply automatically devote themselves to you.
This is something you need to consider.
You need to have this kind of understanding because you don’t want to make this kind of mistake again.
If you meet a guy online that you start dating and you really like, don’t be afraid to talk to him about exclusivity.
Be very clear that exclusivity is what you want.
This makes it very easy to weed out the guys who are simply wanting to date a lot of women from those who are trying to find someone serious.
They would be able gauge how they feel about you and decide if they are looking for the same thing.
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