The first step is to accept the fact that your best friend doesn’t feel the same.
Unfortunately though, this tends to be the most difficult part for most people.
Part of the difficulty is due to the fact that it is part of human nature to cling to what it can’t have.
Hence, it is tough to accept.
When you allow yourself to accept it, it will be easier for you to cope because you will begin to take steps to move forward in your life.
When you keep hoping that your best friend will start loving you like you love her, you will never be able to cope.
You will keep latching onto something she said or did today that must mean that she is now beginning to love you.
She may have been very kind to you today and given you compliments.
Because you haven’t accepted the fact that she isn’t in love with you, you may look at this as a sign that she is beginning to like you romantically.
You will now start latching onto the hope that things are changing.
The truth is that things haven’t changed.
She just happened to be really kind to you today and was very complimentary.
It doesn’t mean that her feelings for you have changed.
However, this is the way you will begin to interpret your best friend’s behavior as you desperately hope that her feelings for you change.
This is why you must accept the fact that your best friend isn’t in love with you and be willing to move forward with your life.
Once you have made this real in your mind, you should start trying your best to start challenging yourself to grow as a person.
Start putting out some real effort to be more effective in your world.
Take up a new hobby or a new challenge.
It could be something that you are very passionate about and haven’t put enough attention to in the past or something completely new.
This is the process of finding a mission.
A mission to gain some muscle, make new friends, learn how to play a musical instrument, travel somewhere in the world, speak a new language, etc.
There are numerous opportunities to create missions for yourself.
These are the activities that will not only help you grow as a person but will also enable you to get really involved doing something.
When you have a new challenge that you are really involved with, it uses up a good chunk of your mental energy.
When your mental energy is constantly focusing on achieving that challenge, you will think about your love for your best friend a lot less.
This is a very effective way to cope with this because you are now mentally and physically preoccupied with other activities.
You may even discover as time goes on that you have so much love for what you are doing in your daily to weekly challenges that this love has usurped the one you had for your best friend.
The goal is to first and foremost ensure that you have accepted the situation in your mind.
The next step is to take action towards growing as a person by challenging yourself. When you do this, you will cope.
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