Try starting new adventures.
Get out of your comfort zone and do something with her that the both of you haven’t done before.
So many relationships get to the point where boredom sets in.
This is because the partners simply become too complacent in their roles.
They get so comfortable with each other that they begin to ignore the importance of keeping their relationship fresh and interesting.
When you are dating someone, one of your most important goals should be to ensure that you don’t take your partner for granted.
This is what often happens in relationships.
When you take your partner for granted, you stop trying to make the relationship interesting because you get too comfortable.
The truth is, there is still so much to learn about your partner.
Just because you are now in a relationship with them doesn’t mean that you know them entirely.
There is so much more to learn and discover about them if you are willing to take the opportunity to do so.
Hence, as I mentioned earlier, start taking the time to do new activities in your relationship.
Actually start a schedule.
Start planning stuff out.
Do your research.
What have you guys not done yet?
Have you been on a road trip, camping, hiking, dancing, traveled, taken a class together, etc. There is so much more out there.
This is one way to begin to relight the spark in your relationship so that you can start getting your girlfriend back to the way she felt about the relationship before.
However, do understand that your girlfriend has to be a willing participant in this.
There is no point in trying to make things happen in this relationship that will reinvigorate it if your girlfriend isn’t a willing participant.
She has to be willing not only to partake in new activities with you but she also has to be willing to make them happen.
A relationship is a two way street.
A healthy relationship cannot happen if all of the effort is coming from one partner.
You really have to ensure that your girlfriend is putting in the same or close to the same amount of energy that you are to make this relationship exciting again.
Her effort in all this only helps this process move along and succeed.
Another way to relieve the boredom in this relationship is to start making new friends.
As people, we can get so used to the same crowd that we tend to simply stick to it.
As human beings, we like what feels familiar and safe.
Hence, we stick to the same social circle.
This mindset has to change.
Allow yourselves to start getting to know new people.
When you begin to bring new people into the relationship, it gives your relationship a new dynamic.
It makes it a lot more multidimensional than what it was previously.
This is good because you will both start learning about these new people and may even pick up some new activity ideas from them.
You will start hearing opinions from a fresh angle.
This will make the both of you look at life in a much more enlightened way.
Again, you get to step out of your normal comfort zone with your usual social circle and step into a whole new way of looking at the world.
These are all points of excitement and newness.
It infuses a new form of energy into the relationship that gets rid of the boredom.
All things considered though, do understand that for this to work, the both of you have to be equally interested in making it work.
I cannot emphasize this enough.
You can’t be the only person trying to relieve the boredom in your relationship.
Though you may feel that your girlfriend is bored of you, she still has an equal responsibility in ensuring that the relationship stays fresh and energetic.
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