When your boyfriend’s female friend doesn’t like you, it is out of jealousy.
There are many relationships that are seemingly platonic but underneath the surface, passion lingers.
Someone has feelings for another and those feelings are craving reciprocation.
Your boyfriend’s female friend likes him in a romantic sense.
She has liked him in a romantic sense for a while.
That female friend has waited it out just hoping that your boyfriend comes around to liking her.
Now you step in and mess everything up.
She doesn’t like you.
In a scenario like this, this female friend has deep emotions.
She has developed a deeper bond with your boyfriend over time.
For a while, before you showed up, she was working on their relationship, intent on guiding it into a romance.
She had hope.
For so long in their relationship, they have jinxed each other.
When she was single, he wasn’t.
When he was single, she wasn’t.
Finally, they are single at the same time.
She thought that it was only a matter of time before he asked her out.
Then you show up out of nowhere, ruining the work she has been doing towards transitioning their friendship to a romance.
In this reality, this is a friend who has strong affection for your boyfriend.
That emotion is challenging to satiate when it hasn’t received its prize.
That prize being your boyfriend.
Avoid the temptation to get into verbal or nonverbal arguments with his friend.
This is what she wants.
To instill doubts about you in your boyfriend’s mind, this female friend constructs hostile situations to put you in, to bait you into getting upset.
The idea is to have you experience so much discomfort, you complain to your boyfriend about your dislike for her.
Your boyfriend hears you repeatedly saying stuff like that about a girl he has loved as his friend long before you came into the picture and gradually grows to detest you.
This puts a strain in your relationship which climaxes in a breakup you never desired.
Now, that female friend has achieved what she wanted.
As long as you are no longer in the picture, she is happy.
Don’t let this happen.
Be kind to her.
There is truth to the phrase, “Kill them with kindness.”
Don’t get entangled in any of her verbal or nonverbal games.
She throws everything at you to disrupt you and you absorb it in stride, while focusing on what you are supposed to be focused on, building a healthy relationship with your boyfriend.
In treating her kindly, you don’t give your boyfriend a reason to detest you.
Inevitably, that female friend realizes that her efforts are having no effect on you and stops her shenanigans.
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