When your boyfriend’s female friend doesn’t like you, it may be out of jealousy.
There are many relationships that are seemingly platonic but underneath the surface, there is more.
Someone may have feelings for another and those feelings are not being returned.
This may be the situation that you are in.
Your boyfriend’s female friend may actually like him in a romantic sense.
In fact, she may have liked him in a romantic sense for a while.
However, your boyfriend doesn’t return that interest.
Perhaps, that female friend has waited it out just hoping that your boyfriend will come around to liking her.
Now you step in and mess everything up.
Hence, she doesn’t like you.
In a scenario like this, you are dealing with deep emotions.
There is a good chance that this female friend has grown an even deeper bond with your boyfriend over time.
She may have felt like the both of them were getting somewhere.
As a result, she may have been filled with a lot of hope.
The longer the friendship lasts and he is single, the better her chances.
Or so she thinks.
She may have even thought that it was only a matter of time before he asked her out.
Then you show up out of nowhere.
You essentially ruin all the work she has been doing all this time in trying to build a friendship with him in the hopes that it will lead to romance.
Again, in this kind of scenario, you are dealing with someone who has strong affection for your boyfriend.
That kind of emotion is very difficult to satiate when it hasn’t received the prize.
That prize being your boyfriend.
The last thing you should do in this scenario is get into verbal or nonverbal arguments with his friend.
This is what she would want.
In order to make your boyfriend start having doubts about you, this female friend may try to get you into hostile situations and make you upset.
She may try to make you feel so uncomfortable whenever she is around that you begin telling your boyfriend that you don’t like her.
Your boyfriend hears you saying stuff like that about a girl that he has loved as his friend before you came into the picture and he may begin to detest you.
This will put a strain in your relationship which ultimately leads to a breakup.
Now, that female friend has gotten what she wanted.
As long as you are no longer in the picture, she is happy.
Even if she herself never ends up in a romantic relationship with him.
Hence, you lose.
Don’t let this happen.
You should be kind to her.
There is truth to the phrase, “Kill them with kindness.”
Don’t allow yourself to get entangled in any of her verbal or nonverbal games.
Allow your boyfriend to see that you accept her and you aren’t going to allow yourself to lose focus on what is most important, him.
If this female friend doesn’t like you and she tries her best to disparage you, take it in stride and continue building your relationship with your boyfriend.
At some point, that female friend will realize that her efforts are having no effect and she will either stop or slow down.
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