Your ex may be texting you again out of the blue because they may have just gotten out of a relationship that left them quite unhappy or they may be in a lonely period in their life.
Often, when ex’s hear from each other after a sustained period of time, it is due to a sense of unhappiness, loss and even a sudden drop to their sense of self-esteem.
When someone has been in a relationship that ended suddenly, they may begin to ponder about their past relationships.
They begin to ponder because they wonder if the relationship that they just got out of was a failure because of them.
They doubt themselves.
They want to feel a better sense of who they are and their self-worth.
So, they think of you. An ex.
They start recollecting the type of relationship that they had with you.
They compare that relationship to the one that they have just gotten out of.
It seems so much better.
They start to remember how happy they were when they were with you.
They start getting that sense of importance and relevancy when they think about you.
To you, they were somebody.
To you, they meant something.
As they begin to recollect and tell themselves what they themselves want to hear in order to make themselves feel better, they realize that getting back in touch with you may make them feel better.
The more they think about this, the more enticing it becomes.
So what do they end up doing?
They contact you out of the blue.
It’s important to understand that the state of mind in which your ex is in at the moment may not be the best.
As I described earlier, they may have either just recently gotten out of a bad relationship, a relationship that ended badly or they may simply be lonely.
In that state of mind, they simply want to feel better about themselves and the current state that they are in.
Think about it for a moment?
Why would anyone just contact you out of the blue when they haven’t maintained any kind of communication with you in-between that time?
They haven’t contacted you to ask about your well-being all this time.
As far as you were concerned, you no longer existed in their eyes.
Now, all of a sudden, out of the blue, that person contacts you.
They haven’t shown any real concern for you during their time of absence.
They weren’t there when you got fired from work, got told off by a loved one, got kicked out of your apartment, got your purse or wallet stolen, etc.
Now, this person shows up?
Doesn’t that sound odd and peculiar?
Of course it does.
Oftentimes, it is due to that person reacting to something that just happened in their lives.
In a way, contacting you is a reactionary act.
They haven’t entirely thought it through.
They are simply reacting in order to put themselves in a better mental and possibly even physical state.
Yes, the physical too.
They may be sexually frustrated at the moment and feel that since they have been with you in the past, they may have an avenue to get sex.
In general, what you may really be dealing with here is someone that is being selfish.
They may either want to fulfill an emotional or physical need.
Since you are familiar to them and the both of you have history, they decide to contact you in order to get what they hope will make them feel better.
You shouldn’t be anyone’s emotional or physical relief, unless you choose to be so.
Don’t allow yourself to fall for the ex simply because you may still have feelings for them.
The fact that the ex contacted you out of the blue may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and what they want.
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