One week is a long time without hearing from your boyfriend through messaging or phone calls.
Now he is asking you to go out with him out of the blue, making this whole ordeal that much more peculiar.
Having no contact from your boyfriend for a whole week without any prior warning is very unusual and warrants a serious conversation with your boyfriend about his motives.
This behavior cannot be ignored.
There is a part of him that is having doubts about this relationship.
He gave it the week to think about it and is now trying to reconnect, believing that this would be best.
There is another part of him that is wondering what it would be like to be done with the relationship.
He used this week of no contact whatsoever to see whether he would be happy just being on his own.
The experiment left him feeling that he didn’t want to be on his own and he decided to contact you out of blue and ask you out.
It’s possible he was dating other girls at this time and used that week to continue doing so.
There are a number of possibilities as to why you didn’t hear from your boyfriend all week.
You will have to determine what is wrong.
Ignoring this behavior has you ignoring a problem that would only get worse with time.
This is what many couples often do.
They act as though the problem doesn’t exist.
They refuse to talk about something that needs to be addressed and just assume that time will make it all better.
Time doesn’t make it all better.
The problem is persists.
It gets brushed aside for now but it tends to return.
In not dealing with the problem now, choosing instead to continue on as though nothing happened, you would be worsening the problem.
It will be more difficult to get over it the next time it shows up.
Unfortunately, at that point, you have developed deeper feelings for your boyfriend which would make it that much more difficult to address the problem and risk losing your relationship.
Tackle the problem now instead of later.
Don’t accept your boyfriend’s invitation to go out until he has talked to you about why he didn’t call or message you for a week.
He brushes it off and tells you not to worry about it.
You shouldn’t let it go that easily.
It happened for a reason.
Your boyfriend didn’t have sudden amnesia and forget that you are his girlfriend for an entire week.
He just didn’t.
He did this for a reason.
You will be better off finding out what the reason was sooner than later.
This is what you should focus on for now.
Don’t let the fact that you have missed your boyfriend for this last week cloud your judgment.
Doing so tricks you into forgiving his behavior too quickly and acting like nothing happened.
You can’t do that.
Address the problem now so that you don’t run into it again in a worse way in the future.
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