When Too Much Becomes Really Too Much

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When Too Much Becomes Really Too Much

If your partner has become too much, you need to have a talk with them.

Your partner may not be aware that they have become overbearing.

They may not be aware that they are misbehaving and causing bitterness.

They may truly believe that everything is fine, but you should let them know that this really isn’t the case.

Understand where the problem is coming from.

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What exactly has made your partner become too much for you?

What are they doing in particular?

Has there been a history of it and when did it begin?

What do you think you may or may not have done that may have led to your partner being too much?

There are lots of questions you need to ask yourself and be clear about.

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You should be clear about all this because you will need to be able to point to particular instances where you can say that this is where the problem began and worsened.

You will also have to reflect on you and what you are doing.

It is often easy to point to the other person as the source of the problem without casting an inquisitive eye on yourself.

Have you in some way encouraged this by what you have said and done in the past?

Be honest with yourself.

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When you come to terms with the root cause of the problem and how it all began, you can then address it with your partner.

Hence, understanding some of the intricacies of your relationship is helpful.

It has to be a conversation that is detailed in its argument and makes sense.

You shouldn’t be mean or rude about it.

You are simply trying to point out where the problem started.

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That is important.

A good way to ensure that your partner understands your point is to point out that you know you aren’t perfect.

You point out that you do want to be better in the relationship as well and would be open to his ideas.

Hence, you both win.

If your partner loves and respects you, he will heed the discussion and may stop being too much.

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This may help lead to a more healthy relationship.

This will also help the both of you understand each other better.

Your partner may have always dealt with relationships in this way.

Their previous partner may have been very receptive to how overbearing they can get.

This previous partner may have even loved it and encouraged it.

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Hence, you should try to grasp this possibility as well.

In your partner’s mind, they may have even believed that this is something that you would enjoy.

This is all based on that prior experience with a previous partner.

However, by being honest with them about how this is affecting you, there is a good chance that they will realize their mistake and make the necessary adjustments.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.