A bad personality is a very difficult hurdle to climb. Even if your partner was 90 percent of what you wanted, it wouldn’t change the fact that they have a bad personality.
That bad personality could easily sip through into several facets of your relationship.
It can be very mentally debilitating to deal with a partner with a bad personality.
The problem with getting into a relationship and staying in a relationship with a partner like this is that you embolden them.
When they realize that you are still willing to get into a relationship with them even with their bad personality, they will see no reason to change what they do or how they interact with you and others.
The mistake that a lot of people make when they get into relationships like this is they believe that their partner’s bad personality will somehow get better with time.
However, this is normally not the case.
If this is how your partner is now, they have probably been this way for a very long time.
Old habits are very difficult to stop especially when your partner knows that they have been able to get way with this kind of behavior over and over again in the past.
A bad personality only gets worse with time.
When your partner isn’t willing to change because you accept them as they are, they will only feel more encouraged to keep behaving badly or keep maintaining a poor personality.
Remember that even if you truly believe that you can handle that bad personality because 90 percent of your partner is what you want, it doesn’t mean that the other important people in your life are going to be able to handle it.
They probably won’t because they don’t have that kind of relationship with your partner.
They only know your partner as someone that you are dating.
There is no romantic connection there or history.
They don’t have the luxury of having 90 percent of what they want from your partner because they aren’t in a romantic relationship with your partner.
Their level of tolerance for this kind of behavior would only get less tolerant over time.
This is a factor that you do need to strongly consider.
What kind of strain will your partner’s bad personality put on the rest of the people in your life from family to friends to work colleagues?
You also have to consider the possibility that the other 90 percent of what you get from your partner may not remain constant.
At some point, your needs may change.
You may become more refined in your requirements or may simply not have those requirements at all.
In essence, you mature and change.
This does happen in relationships. People do change. People’s needs do change as well.
If that 90 percent becomes 60 percent, you are now deficient by 40 percent.
How much more of your partner’s bad personality will you be able to take when they are now only meeting 60 percent of your needs?
Something to think about.
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