You should ask yourself why you would want to get back with your first love.
You have found it hard to forget them, but why?
There is always a reason why this need comes up in one’s life.
Are you at a point in your life where you feel lonely, inadequate or insecure?
Have you had a history of failed relationships?
Are you currently agitated and frustrated at those relationship failures?
The solution here does not necessarily lie in whether you should get back with your first love or not.
This honestly may not solve the problem.
The solution lies in you.
The solution lies in you taking a look at your past relationships and asking, where did I go wrong and how can I go about making things better?
When we have relationship failures in our lives, we sometimes rewind.
We rewind to a time when things were better and innocent.
We start thinking about that first love and start telling ourselves that this is what we want back in our lives.
This will make us feel better.
It is a natural human reaction.
We look outside of ourselves to fix our relationship woes instead of looking within ourselves. This happens quite often.
If you are thinking about whether you should get back with your first love, think about why that thought has now come into your mind.
What you may find is that you may be reaching out to something that made you feel good in the past just so that you can feel better about the present.
Now, your emotions may be truly genuine.
You may truly just want this first love back in your life because you feel that the both of you belong together.
However, you should ensure that your mind is clear about this.
You shouldn’t be coming at this with the mindset that your past relationship failures have been due to the fact that you weren’t with your first love.
Your past relationship failures stem from you and the choices you made both in partners and in your behavior.
Be clear about that before you decide to take a step towards contacting your first love.
Your first love is not going to be the cure to your relationship woes if you have not worked on correcting your own mistakes.
Without fixing these, if your first love were to come back into your life, you would simply make the same mistakes again.
This doesn’t help you.
It would only put you on a path of heartache because you may feel like you are so close and yet so far.
In essence, there may be nothing keeping your first love there if they were to want to be with you.
It would be the same old.
Though, the same old can feel enticingly familiar, it does eventually wear out.
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