The feeling isn’t mutual in every case, as there are no guarantees your first love regards you as their first love.
Keeping this in mind, accepting that your first love is seeing someone else and moving on is the best approach.
Not everyone that you fall in love with is going to fall in love with you.
If your first love is seeing someone else, he is clearly showing that he has no interest in pursuing a romantic relationship with you.
You have had good discussions with this person and share great chemistry.
The truth of the matter is, good discussions don’t necessarily mean that this person likes you the same way you like them.
Have you ever told this person who is your first love how you feel about them?
It is unlikely that you have.
In never having told this person how you feel about them, they are probably assuming that you purely see them as a friend.
This is why you should take a closer look at the nature of your relationship with this person and avoid getting carried away by your own desires.
Getting lost in your desires makes you crave to be with someone so much that you can’t imagine that person being with anyone else.
As I mentioned earlier, not everyone that you have great discussions with or good chemistry with, is going to fall in love with you.
In this scenario, you have to come to terms with the strong probability that your first love doesn’t like you.
Even if you were to tell him how you feel about him, it might be too late, considering that your first love could be in love with someone else.
He has a greater connection with this person and chooses to date them as an effect.
Look at this as a learning chapter in your life.
The lesson is to avoid the temptation to give in to your feelings too early, while in the course of getting to know someone.
Moving forward, put an emphasis on getting to know someone and building a degree of rapport.
Be candid with yourself about how you feel about the person, and let them know about it when you believe you have spent enough time learning about them and building rapport.
It is during this period that you discover whether this person is seeing someone else or not.
During this period, you get a greater perspective of what this person is about, instead of letting yourself fall in love with the person too soon.
Being too wrapped up in how good the initial chemistry is lulls you into falling in love too soon.
In giving this time, you get to unravel facets about the person that are good and bad.
This patience empowers you, keeping you from falling in love too quickly and giving you the agency to decide whether he is the right person for you to date, if he isn’t seriously seeing anyone else.
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