You did the right thing by giving him space if you have been constantly smothering him in the relationship.
However, giving him space should not mean that you start having a lot less communication or events together.
This is not healthy in a relationship, especially one that already has some longevity.
Giving him space is better when it is done in order to allow the other partner to have moments where they can grow as a person.
However, you can take it too far.
When you get to the point where you are afraid to call or text because you are worried that you would be infringing on his space, you have taken this too far.
When you get to the point where you are worried about hanging out because you are not sure if they would be alright with that, you have taken this too far.
Giving him space does not mean leaving the relationship in a state of lingo.
There should always be a line drawn as far as how far this should go.
It’s important to understand this.
Should you allow him space so that he can pursue a hobby he may love? Sure.
Should you allow him space so that he can hang out with his friends and do stuff together that they tend to enjoy without you always having to be there?
Should you let him have some mental space so that he doesn’t feel the need to always check up with you multiple times a day just to make sure that you are happy?
These are all within the right limits and make sense.
The relationship even flourishes when both partners allow themselves time away from each other.
It’s about moderation.
Moderation will keep things going and will allow space without taking things too far.
A good balance is essential.
This way, the moments you do spend together will be that much more special.
It also allows the both of you to understand that there is more to life than only sharing time together.
You will both discover new facets or parts of life that you would never have discovered if you didn’t start having some space apart.
These discoveries would only make your relationship that much stronger because you would both be growing more and more as dynamic people.
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