How To Leave A Physically Abusive Relationship Safely

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How To Leave A Physically Abusive Relationship Safely

To leave a physically abusive relationship safely, you should first and foremost ensure that you end the relationship without any vestiges of hope.

Be mentally clear that you are leaving this physically abusive relationship for good.

Often, people lie to themselves.

They say that they will leave the physically abusive relationship and end up coming right back or not following through.

What they do is they talk themselves out of it because they think that something will change.

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They start leaning towards hope.

The truth is that they are frightened to be alone even if it is outside of this physically abusive relationship.

Hence, it is crucial that you have made up your mind that this is it.

There is no going back.

Going back would be a detriment to not only leaving this physically abusive relationship but to your mental health as well.

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You could find yourself going in circles hoping that every time you return to this relationship things will get better.

This is a very difficult place to be.

Once you have truly decided that you will leave this physically abusive relationship and won’t return, you should find a place to stay that you know that this person is unaware of.

You should ensure that he is not familiar with this place.

If you both have mutual friends, you should let them know not to tell this person where you will be.

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This may require you to move from where you live now.

This move is extremely crucial.

As long as you continue to live where this person is familiar with, you may never be able to get rid of them and be safe.

Yes, this is a big move but you have to make it.

Here are the key points you should abide by if you want to make this truly work.

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Firstly, you have mentally decided to leave this physically abusive relationship and have no intention whatsoever to return.

Secondly, you are willing to leave where you currently stay and live somewhere else that this person is not aware of.

Thirdly, you have informed mutual and non-mutual friends of the importance of not telling this person where you currently live.

Fourthly, you have ensured that you haven’t left any signs of where you may live now through your social media accounts a la Facebook and what have you.

Fifth, you stop going to the places you used to hang out together and start hanging out in new places that the both of you never went to while you were in a relationship.

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Be as cognizant of doing this as possible. The more diligent you are, the easier it will be to eventually put this relationship behind you.

It will take consistent and stubborn effort to help yourself move forward.

When you are trying to move forward and times may get tough, always remind yourself that the ultimate goal is to be free of a relationship that would have only caused you more and more pain.

Hold on to that belief and keep working towards getting to a better place in your life and putting this physically abusive relationship behind you.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.