In the event this is the first time you are going out on a date with her, the best approach is to keep it simple.

Meeting her for coffee or lunch works best for this occasion.

If she is someone that you don’t know all that well, this is an approach that relieves undue pressure from either one of you.

The mistake in instantly asking her to dinner and a movie, is in how this automatically indicates that you are expecting to invest a sizable amount of time on this date.

There is now an undue pressure on either party, as they wonder whether this is going to end up being a really long night if they don’t get along during the date.

All of a sudden, instead of looking forward to the first date, there is anxiety about it’s trajectory.

The weight of these thoughts puts either party down emotionally, causing unwanted nerves to arise.

If this is your first date with her, negative thoughts or a sense of undue pressure is never beneficial.

Asking her to dinner and a movie works a lot better for a second or third date.

A second date is an indication that either party had a good time on the first date and there was a connection.

You know more about each other and have a real liking for each other.

With this as a precursor, it is so much easier to envision a relatively long evening together on a second date, given how well the first date went.

The first date provided the latitude for observation.

An observation of mannerisms and personality.

You got to relate to each other by hearing each other’s stories.

In essence, the ice was broken on the first date.

Now, instead of worrying whether dinner and a movie would be a long night, you are looking forward to spending even more time together on this second or third date.

This is when asking her to dinner and a movie works best.

A first date isn’t the appropriate occasion to ask her to dinner and a movie.

When it comes to a first date, the first priority has to be that you invite her into an environment that she is comfortable in.

By inviting her to meet for coffee or lunch, you are within your elements.

There is less anxiety about the occasion, given that having coffee or lunch isn’t out of the ordinary.

She meets you at her favorite place for her lunch breaks from work, or her favorite coffee shop.

This is a casual atmosphere that alleviates pressure.

A short and simple first date that goes well, makes either party that much more excited about spending more time together on a second date.

This gives her an event to look forward to.

Doing dinner and a movie has the potential to become a night to remember, when it is done on the right date.

The idea of impressing her on a first date by asking to take her to dinner and a movie is a common occurrence.

Notwithstanding, exercising patience by asking her to coffee or lunch as a first date, demonstrates that you have emotional control, and this is impressive in and of itself.