This is where some boyfriends make the mistake of thinking that their girlfriend is crying due to something they did or said that they were unaware of at the time.
Your girlfriend is crying, as she is upset about something.
It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you.
It isn’t uncommon for a girlfriend to be bothered or stressed out over an issue that has nothing to do with you.
When she cries, don’t be overbearing towards her.
The last thing you should do is keep trying to comfort her a bit too aggressively.
This further upsets her.
You are better off being relatively silent but letting her to know from the beginning that you are there for her should she want to talk about it.
That is what a girl wants.
She wants the reassurance of knowing that her boyfriend is prepared to be there for her, even if he isn’t saying too much.
The essential statement you made is where you told her that you are there for her should she need you.
At a time like this, work hard to maintain normalcy in your relationship.
By acting like something is wrong, you make the situation worse and add stress to her life.
When she realizes that you haven’t talked to her in the manner you used to, or that you are avoiding her, she feels worse.
Avoid taking these drastic steps.
Rather, maintain the normalcy of your relationship.
Where there is a routine, stick to it.
Don’t skip going out for dinner on Friday nights or going to the gym as workout buddies.
Were she to tell you that she doesn’t want to go, be understanding, but on the following day, ask her to go with you.
In other words, the best thing you can do is continue the pace, routine and normalcy of your relationship.
The more consistent you are with sticking with what you have always done together, the easier it is for her to realize that she has a support structure.
She won’t feel the need to hibernate or stay away from you or people in general.
She is encouraged that you haven’t changed your routine with her and you are keeping the relationship balanced.
Use this approach, regardless of whether your girlfriend’s sadness is directed at you or not.
Let her know that you are ready to talk about it when she is ready, but you must maintain the steady pace of the relationship.
When she is ready to talk about it, she will.
Trust in this and don’t force your hand.
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