You know when you are moving too fast when you start feeling like you are.
These are your instincts telling you that you are moving too fast and listening to these instincts can be beneficial.
The relationship that develops at an even pace feels more natural.
When your relationship feels like it is being forced, you know that you are moving too fast.
You can use your past relationships as a guide.
Have you moved too fast in past relationships? Have your past romantic partners told you that you were moving too fast?
If they have, try to remember what led them to say it. Try to recall what you were doing that made them feel like you were moving too fast.
As human beings, we are often creatures of habit. We tend to do the same thing over and over until someone tells us different and we make a real effort to change. If you are doing what you have done in the past that led to complaints that you were moving too fast, you should stop it.
This is how you can use your past as your guide for the present.
You know you are moving too fast when the other person hesitates when you make certain suggestions. You may notice through their body language or the way the are talking that they don’t seem too keen for what you are suggesting.
They may have a lot of pauses before they respond to a suggestion you just had or they may start moving their body away from yours. They may even avoid touch or further closeness to your personal space.
These are the moments you know that you have made them uneasy and may be moving too fast. They may like you but feel like you are moving things faster than they would like.
You may even notice that they may initially agree to your suggestion but will later cancel.
This is for a reason.
Typically, they agreed at first because they felt awkward. However, once they were away from the moment, they felt compelled to cancel because they just didn’t feel right about it.
These are the kind of responses you need to take note of. This is typically someone who is showing you that you are moving too fast.
You are moving too fast when you are always trying to do things with this person irrespective of this person’s time. You may want to see this person all the time and you aren’t leaving them the opportunity to have a life or do their own thing.
This person may become stifled by you.
They may begin to avoid talking to you because they know that you are going to want to be with them and they were just with you yesterday.
As a result, you will notice that they may communicate less.
They may even start avoiding any mention of dates.
You may find yourself being the one who tends to initiate the majority of the dates because they may have gotten fed up with you always wanting to be with them.
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