The majority of women prefer social and outgoing guys.
Many of them don’t like sensing insecurity in a guy.
This would make them feel like the guy isn’t sure about himself.
They typically wouldn’t want to be around a guy like that.
A guy who is insecure could make them feel unhappy and down. A girl doesn’t want to be around that kind of energy.
She wants to be around a guy that makes her feel good and energized.
She likes to be around a guy who is exciting and will show her a good time.
An insecure guy would make her feel like she would have to do a lot of work just to get him out of his mental sense of insecurity.
That being said, some women do like shy guys.
They don’t necessarily like the fact that he is shy. They just happen to like something about the guy.
They like the guy despite the fact that he is shy. They start trying to figure out a way to get him to notice them and make a move. They wonder about what they should do to just let the shy guy know that it is alright to move in.
They like the shy guy in spite of his shyness.
A really confident girl may bypass trying to send the shy guy romantic signals through body language and just approach him directly.
This is where the shy guy could become his own worst enemy. If he doesn’t respond to her in a way that makes her want to talk to him even more, he may lose her.
She has made that all important first step but the shy guy isn’t as engaging as she would have hoped. The shy guy has no conversational skills. She loses her sense of curiosity and interest and leaves the shy guy be.
Most girls wouldn’t be this bold. They would try to send signals his way in the hope that he gets them and makes a move.
If you are a shy guy, you should look out for these signals from girls. They will try to make eye contact. Some of them will smile or take it away the moment the eye contact is established, only to bring it back again.
Some girls will play with their hair repeatedly as they stare in your direction.
A girl who’s interested may try to find ways to make physical contact by brushing past you a few times.
You will need to look for these cues. They are very important.
As I mentioned earlier, a few girls may have the courage to initiate conversation with you but most won’t. You have to be aware of what a girl may be trying to do in order to get your attention so that you can respond.
If you are insecure, you will have to understand that your uniqueness is a big part of what makes you who you are. You should embrace that uniqueness.
Do not make assumptions about yourself in reference to your looks or temperament. Do not put yourself down.
It is these internal stories that we tell ourselves that tends to make us insecure.
Don’t focus on those. Focus on the positive and what makes you feel good about yourself.
This helps to build your sense of self-worth so that you are no longer insecure.
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