Figure out what kind of relationship that you are looking for first. Are you looking for a long-term relationship or something more casual?
You really need to understand which one it is first. You should even ask yourself if you are truly looking for any kind of relationship right now.
You may believe you do simply because you are currently single or you feel like it is something that is expected of you.
However, you should never give in to this kind of pressure. Don’t feel like you have to get into any kind of relationship.
You may be at a point in your life where your best option may be to simply be friends with both and keep your life moving in a different direction. It really comes down to being honest with how you truly feel and what you may want at this time.
If you decide that you are looking for a long-term relationship, it is better to take a chance on the guy who you feel that you can be yourself with.
You know that you can be yourself around him and not have to worry about being judged. This is a guy that will make you feel at ease whenever you are around him. You feel like you can tell him anything.
You have no problem being vulnerable around him.
You can be with him and be so comfortable that words don’t have to be said. You are so comfortable with each other that you can be in silence for long periods of time without feeling awkward.
He tends to listen and respect your opinions. He doesn’t always agree with you just so that he appeases you. He will be absolutely honest with you about his opinions even when he knows it may differ from your own.
This is the guy you should take a chance on if you are looking for a long-term relationship. Your connection with this guy cannot be solely based on physical attraction.
There should be more to it.
If you decide that you are looking for something short-term or casual, you can take a chance with the guy that has strong physical compatibility with you but not necessarily conversational.
He may be good at keeping your attention for brief moments.
He is not the kind to communicate too often or go into too much detail about your interests.
He may be way better at flirting with you than the other guy. He may be very good at giving you a temporary boost to your self-esteem because he knows the right words to use.
This is the guy that may excite you more than the other just because he may have that air of mystery or even danger about him.
He may be more adventurous in his daily expenditures. He may be very involved in his social life and his hobbies.
This may be the guy that makes you wonder what he is going to do or say next. He may be unpredictable and perhaps a little reckless.
This guy may be the one who gives you the most short-term excitement.
Taking a chance on a guy like this is better set for a short-term relationship.
In the end, you need to be able to develop a real and true friendship with a guy that you intend to date for a long-term relationship.
A short-term relationship is typically less demanding of friendship and more demanding of fun in the here and now.
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