Software engineers are made out to be nerds by pop culture.

Although, as a software engineer, you are making as much yearly income as many doctors and lawyers, you aren’t given the same respect.

There have been a number of occasions where you have met women who would gladly pick a doctor or lawyer over you, irrespective of the similar high paying incomes.

This negative stereotype about software engineers is not a figment of your imagination.

When it comes to dating, you have seen women lighten up when they get a sense that you are a high earner.

A guy who has the financial wherewithal to provide has always been an attractive quotient for women when it comes to picking a mate.

In your case, once you get into a deeper conversation with her, you have seen that light flicker and peter out upon learning that you are a software engineer.

All of a sudden, even though she has a good idea that you are a high earner, she can’t seem to get past the reality that you are a software engineer.

Yet, you know that if you had told her that you are a doctor or lawyer, she would have kept that light shining bright.

This is something that has affected your self-confidence when it comes to dating.

It has gotten so bad that whenever you are socializing or out on a date with a woman, you are tempted to lie about what you do for a living.

You desperately want to get past this annoying obstacle.

A consistent failure in getting to second dates with these women has left you believing that this negative stereotype about software engineers is the catalyst.

Although, there is truth in how software engineers are viewed by society at large, you have to avoid the trap of blaming it for your dating woes.

As aforementioned, software engineers have been made out to be nerds by popular media.

What does he look like?

Everyone knows that the guy with glasses and a buttoned up shirt, seated in front of a computer, is the quintessential portrayal of a nerd.

That’s the negative stereotype that software engineers are saddled with thanks to popular media.

The negativity mainly comes from the perception that a guy like this is devoid of social skills.

Remember, although a stereotype tends to have kernels of truth in it, it has nuances.

There is so much to you than what a stereotype promulgates.

It’s your job to present your unique self to women.

Unfortunately, this negative stereotype about software engineers has you nervous whenever you are socializing or out on a date with a woman.

This negative stereotype has triggered a deep-seated insecurity in you.

Women sense this insecurity.

It’s this insecurity that makes you come off as though you don’t have confidence.

By the time she finds out that you are a software engineer, you have already given her second thoughts about the prospects of going on subsequent dates with you.

Women are very intuitive beings.

She knows when something is off.

You are insecure about this stereotype and it has caused you to act in a way that makes you come off as though you have little to no confidence.

This is what turns women off, not the fact that you are a software engineer.

Adjust this part of your behavior as you socialize with women that you are courting, and you will go on many subsequent dates with them and have greater dating success.