Excitement abounds before the first date and you can’t wait for it.

This excitement inevitably leads to anxiety, and by the time the first date arrives, you aren’t yourself.

You are too cautious in conversation and your body language is too stiff.

This makes you appear to be socially awkward to your date, with bad conversational skills, and this turns off your date.

As far as she is concerned, your anxiety is a sign of your behavioral flaws, as opposed to the fact that you were so excited about the first date, you made yourself sick with anxiety.

She takes your anxiety to mean that you have no social skills, which in turn, makes her reluctant to go on a second date with you.

Unfortunately, you don’t get past a first date with her.

This repeats itself with each subsequent woman you go on first dates with, as you keep reliving a nightmare of never getting past a first date.

This has to stop.

The first step is to keep your emotions in check.

You are unwittingly making yourself too anxious on first dates, after spending days or weeks working yourself up into a frenzy of excitement in anticipation of a first date.

To avoid getting yourself overly excited about the first date, keep yourself busy with various activities leading up to it.

Participate in these activities with each day that comes and goes.

This uses up a good chunk of your mental energy, keeping your mind preoccupied, so that you aren’t going off on a mental tangent during the day, thinking about the upcoming first date.

Avoid incessantly talking to your friends and family about the first date.

Whenever you talk to your friends and family, stick to topics that aren’t related to the upcoming first date.

As human beings, we are prone to incessantly talking to those we are close to about something that is affecting us emotionally.

When you are excited about an upcoming first date, your friends and family are the first people you talk to about it.

It’s too much time spent talking about a first date that is yet to happen, which opens you up to the risk of getting the wrong ideas planted in your head about how the date will go.

All it takes is one negative comment from a friend or family member, and the next thing you know, you are worrying about whether the first date is bound for failure.

Needless to say, this causes anxiety which comes across as you sit across from your date on that first date.

Where it isn’t negatives ideas being planted in your head, it’s ideas that are too uplifting.

Hearing phrases from friends and family such as, “She is the One,” or “Can’t wait for the wedding,” sets overly positive expectations of the first date in your mind.

This builds so much anticipation, you end up making yourself too anxious when you are at the first date.

When you don’t let your emotions get the best of you before a first date, you dramatically increase the odds you get past the first date and get to a second.

Are your first dates lasting too long?

Yes, it sounds crazy but a long first date isn’t always a good thing.

A first date is where a pair are looking to see whether there is genuine chemistry.

You are feeling each other out so to speak.

Seemingly endless hours spent on a first date aren’t required to determine whether there is chemistry.

When a first date goes on for too long, it leads to boredom.

Even if the date started well, how it ends is what leaves the lasting impression.

When she is getting bored with a first date that has gone on for too long, you risk leaving her with this impression by the end of the date.

She is stuck on the thought that she got bored by the end of the first date, and is ignoring how much of a good time she was having before the boredom kicked in.

Thanks to this train of thought, she doesn’t want to go on a second date with you.

Guys get too caught up on how well a date is going and forget to end it when they should.

No matter how good a date is going or how hard you are making her laugh, never overstay your welcome.

End the date at an appropriate time, while it is still on a high, so that you leave her with a good impression.

Such a good impression, she wants to go on a second date with you.