It isn’t.

He is your boyfriend and open communication in a relationship is a must.

Clearly, his weight gain has worsened to such a level that it is bothering you constantly.

It is negatively affecting various areas of your relationship, from physical attraction to activities.

These negative effects exist and you are finding it extremely difficult to ignore them.

He wasn’t this heavy when he was courting you.

His body has changed.

It’s not like you began dating him at his current weight.

Being that his body has drastically changed since you began dating him, you are well within your rights to talk to him about losing weight.

Not addressing it makes it worse.

His weight gain progresses until you are incapable of handling it.

At which point, it is too late.

It isn’t mean to tell your boyfriend that you want him to lose some weight.

Part of the reason why you were attracted to him in the first place had to do with his physicality.

Again, he didn’t court you at the weight he is now.

Unfortunately, many couples get complacent when they get into a relationship.

They let themselves go, allowing their weight to balloon.

You don’t have to stand for this.

This isn’t what you signed up for.

He is the one who is dropping the ball in letting himself go.

It shows a lack of respect for you as his partner and a sense of entitlement that you should love him no matter what.

Wrong.

You didn’t become his girlfriend without conditions.

Conditions exist and one of them is that his weight is a significant factor in your physical attraction for him.

Now that he is letting himself go, he has broken that contract.

When you look at it this way, you realize that talking to him about his weight gain isn’t mean at all.

If anyone has been selfish in this relationship, it is him.

Telling him about your desire for him to lose weight isn’t just about getting your conditions met.

It is also about his health.

His continuous weight gain ushers in health problems in the foreseeable future, and as his girlfriend, you are bound to be affected by them.

You are probably observing early warning signs of them already.

His shortness of breath to go up a flight of stairs.

How quickly he gets exhausted whenever he engages in any form of activity with you that requires physical exertion.

His shortage of stamina in the bedroom.

His mental state is taking a beating too.

He doesn’t like how he looks.

His self-esteem is reeling from his weight gain.

That confidence he once had has eroded and he is progressively evolving into a shell of who he once was.

Do you want to reach a point where you don’t recognize the guy you fell in love with in mind and body?

Let this motivate you to act.

Instead of worrying about coming off as mean in talking to him about his weight, your primary concern should be to avoid a future where he has become unrecognizable to you in mind and body.

By ignoring it, you are doubly endangering the durability of your relationship and his physical health.

Talking about it means you care about your relationship with him and his health.

Take solace in that and talk to him about his weight gain pronto.