Can A Relationship Work If You Aren’t Sexually Compatible?

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Can A Relationship Work If You Aren't Sexually Compatible?It really depends on the kind of relationship you are looking for. For most people in relationships, sexual compatibility is very important.

It is a big part of what makes most people in relationships want to learn more about each other in the first place.

Though this is the case for most people, it doesn’t mean that you have to fall within this norm.

You may be in a situation where you and this other person in the relationship place very little to no value in sexual compatibility.

Your main interest may be in the fact that you are there for each other or that you are able to help each other out with things.

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This may be the kind of relationship that you are in. Sexual compatibility may not be important at all to the both of you.

In scenarios like this, the relationship can work because it doesn’t place any value on sexual compatibility.

There is something else that you both hold to a much higher standard than sexual compatibility.

However, do understand that in a scenario like this, you both have to be at the same place mentally.

You would both have to place higher value on something else besides sexual compatibility.

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A relationship doesn’t work when it is just one partner who doesn’t value sexual compatibility.

Both have to feel the same way so that they can make that connection.

If one partner comes into it with the hopes that sexual compatibility may happen over time as they both get to know each other, that partner may end up very disappointed.

You shouldn’t enter a relationship in the hopes that sexual compatibility will happen because you hope that your partner will ultimately change their mind about it.

If they aren’t into the sexual side of a relationship, they will most likely stay that way.

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Your partner may already have a history of being this way.

They are likely to stay this way because it is in their comfort zone.

Don’t be that person who makes the mistake of thinking that you can change how your partner looks at sexual compatibility in a relationship.

You may tell yourself that you are going to be that one person that gets your partner to change.

You are going to be that one partner that charms him so well that he will come to realize how important sexual compatibility is in a relationship.

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As I mentioned earlier, he may already have a history of relationships where sex was not a factor.

If you were to try to make him some kind of project, you would be wasting precious time on someone that has already made up their mind.

You should be honest about why you want to be with this person.

If sexual compatibility truly has no bearing in a relationship with you and the other person feels the same way, this may be able to work.

This is because you get to focus on other aspects of the relationship that makes you both equally happy.

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This focus may help you learn more about yourselves in the process and thereby enrich your relationship in a way that you may not have expected.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.