He may be dating you because he is afraid of losing you at this time.
He may not see a future with you but it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want a life with you for the here and now.
He may just not want to be alone at this particular time.
Another reason why he may have told you that he doesn’t see a future with you but is still dating you may be because he doesn’t want to think about something so profound.
A lot of guys may say that they don’t see a future with their girl out of fear of the sheer profundity of what that could mean.
Oftentimes, this may be something that is too intense to think about at that moment in time.
It doesn’t mean that he won’t come around to seeing a future with you eventually, it may simply mean that he doesn’t want to consider something so profound and definitive at this time.
He may feel like this is way too much of a commitment at this time.
He may not want to make promises that he isn’t sure he can keep.
You may already be looking far into the future and he on the other hand just wants to deal with the issues of the day.
This is all he wants to focus on for now. He just doesn’t want to complicate things.
Perhaps you are already even considering marriage.
Your mind has advanced forward to a point that you know exactly what you want out of this.
He may not be at that level.
He may honestly not even want to think about that possibility at this time.
He may be worried that you are planning ahead prematurely.
He may want the both of you to take it slow and steady.
Hence, if he told you that he doesn’t see a future with you but is still dating you, he may just want you to take it easy and let the relationship continue to evolve.
He may still love and care about you. He may just not want to start thinking about all that right now.
Another reason why he may still be dating you could be because he has gotten used to you.
You have entered his comfort zone.
You are familiar to him.
As human beings, it is easier for us to stay with what we know and are familiar with than to suddenly try something new.
For him to stop dating you would mean that he is entering new territory.
He is going away from what he is comfortable with and suddenly being thrust into an unknown predicament.
He may not want to face this possibility.
Since he is in a place of familiarity and comfort with the relationship, it is much easier for him to continue dating you, someone he is used to, than to start all over again with someone new.
For him, that may not honestly be worth the effort.
He may not want to move away from what he knows. You are safe in his mind.
You are someone that he can rely on.
He would rather stick with that than something brand new or unpredictable.
Hence, he is still dating you even when he has told you that he doesn’t see a future with you.
He may want to stay in this position for as long as he can.
It relieves the pressure from having to figure out what he truly wants out of this relationship for the future and as a result, he gets complacent in it.
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