It really depends on the kind of relationship you have.
There are some relationships that start off very strong in terms of dates.
Both partners who are newly in the relationship have such a feeling of camaraderie and interest that they may go on multiple dates a week.
Then there are other relationships that begin a little slower as far as dating is concerned.
However, in all honesty, it is best to keep the dating within reason when you just start dating someone.
In other words, you shouldn’t overdo it.
One of the biggest early relationship killers is doing too much.
You get to see each other too much and to some extent, due to that, the relationship dulls.
If you want to maintain some sense of excitement and enjoyment in the relationship, your dates earlier on should be fewer but certainly eventful.
Instead of focusing on quantity, focus on quality.
The problem is that when you keep seeing each other on too many dates so early on, you begin to get really accustomed to the person.
To an extent you may feel like you already know this person only within a few weeks of dating them.
You couldn’t possibly know this person that well yet.
It truly takes time to get to know someone authentically.
This is why I say that going on too many dates early on in the relationship can be a relationship killer.
Quantity may only cause the both of you to get fatigued with each other.
You both may begin to feel like you have gotten to experience everything there is and it’s only been a month of dating.
This is because you were both focusing on quantity.
Perhaps you both felt that in order for this relationship to happen, you had to date a lot in the beginning.
That is not true.
The more you focus on quality of dates in the beginning over quantity, the more excited you will be about seeing this person every time you meet.
It is a lot more exciting to look forward to going sailing with your date the following week than to ponder what more the both of you will talk about on another bland date a day after the last one.
You see, this is what you have to maintain in the early stages of the relationship.
You have to maintain that sense of excitement.
When you think about them, you should be looking forward to seeing them again and excited about what you are both going to be doing.
You feel this sense of excitement because the both of you had so much fun going to a quality date the last time you saw each other.
You wouldn’t really get this sense of excitement if the last time you saw them was just yesterday and the both of you went on a bland date.
At least, someone wouldn’t.
When there is way too much date overload in the beginning of the relationship, the sense of excitement dulls and the both of you may start looking at the dating as routine as opposed to something you should both get excited about.
Hence, in the beginning, try to keep the dates to one a week.
Focus more on the quality of the dates than on the quantity.
I know that this can be hard for some who are really excited about each other.
However, do understand that if you were to go on too many dates too often in the start of this relationship, you may be pushing the relationship too hard in one direction.
That sense of excitement may deaden a lot quicker than you think.
Then you both would be left staring at each other wondering what you should do on date 15 in week 3 of your relationship.
Keep the dates at a minimum in the beginning.
Focus on quality over quantity and your relationship will have the best chance at staying fresh and lasting longer.
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