Each relationship is distinct.
Some start off strong with such intense chemistry, seeing each other multiple times a week fits their relationship dynamic like a glove.
Too much of each other too soon leads to a faster loss of energy.
It’s like a light that comes on with a surge, flickers and dies soon after.
Then there are other relationships that emerge a little slower as far as dating is concerned.
This is more of the norm and what you need to aim for.
A slower emergence.
As a rule of thumb, keep your dates to one a week in the early stages.
This keeps you from getting ahead of yourself and overdoing it.
Seeing each other too much too early is overwhelming.
Rather than taking the time to become acquainted, too much too early applies so much undue pressure on the relationship.
This is where you are now doing too much, pushing yourself to keep up at a breakneck pace and it doesn’t take long before you reach burnout.
Fatigue has kicked in too soon.
Having experienced so much with each other so fast, there has been no room to breathe.
You have fallen off on your hobbies during this time and cancelled meeting up with friends and family to meet up with this person.
Your regular schedule is off-kilter, on account of the sheer number of dates you are going to with this person you just started dating.
Soon, it is too much to bear and burnout occurs.
This is sad.
There was a likelihood this coupling had promise, but with too much done too soon, the fire burned out and the potential is lost.
Rather than focusing on quantity this early, focus on quality.
You don’t need to go on a lot of dates early on to keep the momentum going.
The greater you emphasize on quality of dates in the outset over quantity, the further excited you are about seeing this person every time you meet.
It is a lot more exciting to look forward to going sailing with your date the following week than going on yet another bland date a day or two after the last date.
Maintaining that sense of excitement this early matters.
Efficient time between dates, gives more time to planning for better quality dates.
When you think about them, you are looking forward to seeing them again and excited about what you are going to be doing.
You feel this sense of excitement because you had so much fun going to a quality date the last time you saw each other.
You don’t get this sense of excitement when the last time you saw them was just yesterday and the two of you went on a bland date.
When there is too much date overload in the outset of the relationship, the sense of excitement dulls and the dates feel routine as opposed to something you two are excited about.
So, in the beginning, keep the dates to one a week.
Think, quality of dates over quantity.
I know that this is hard for those who are incredibly excited about each other.
But restraint pays off big time.
Ask a Question